Appreciate her worth and emotions. She is worthy enough to receive your appreciation. Respect her feelings before she decides to leave you. Sheโs the type of girl you wonโt appreciate at first. One who will try too hard and always be available.
The type of girl who is easy to read because sheโs honest and blunt and forward. It wonโt feel like much when you have her time and attention because she gives it to you so easily.
Sheโs the type of girl you wonโt get too excited about because youโre never wondering about how she feels.
Sheโs the one who answers quickly. Initiates plans. Invites you everywhere. Tries too hard.
And at first, you are going to realize sheโs different. That she deserves to be treated with the same respect you havenโt even earned yet but she gives it away for free.
In beginning, you are going to treat her well.
And in return, sheโs going to treat you better and try harder and just continue to give, like it looks easy. Because to her, it is. She naturally thinks about others before herself and itโs admirable.
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Then suddenly this quality you admire and respect, youโll take for granted. The calls you used to answer, the texts youโd respond to quickly, suddenly thereโs a shift in you.
Suddenly you have her figured out and yes sheโs different but sheโs so easy to read, you know what move sheโs going to make and what sheโs going to say even before she says it.
Sheโs nice. She cares. She isnโt afraid to show it.
And then you suddenly become like the rest of them. Even though you swore you never would treat her as badly as others might have, you start to. You realize no matter how you treat her she doesnโt react to it. She just keeps being exactly who she is.
And thatโs a different type of challenge for you. Because part of you wants to test her and get to her. So you try to and now you are playing games and messing with her head and being a complete asshole because you want to see how much you can push her until she breaks.
Sheโs not naive and sheโs not stupid. She knows exactly what you are doing. And even though she likes you, even these types of girls get to the point where they get tired of trying so hard.
Sheโll fade from your life a little slowly. Then when you do think about her, you realize you havenโt spoken in a while. But when you reach out and she answers again quickly, thereโs a shift there.
Suddenly sheโs not caring to keep the conversation going. She suddenly stops trying and investing emotions and effort into you. She stops going out of her way. She stops inviting you everywhere. Because even girls like this realize some people arenโt worth it.
Then this girl who you spoke to every day slowly becomes this stranger. And the conversation is cordial but awkward.
Then it hits you that youโre standing in the same room as her and she feels like a stranger. You miss her even though sheโs so close to you but emotionally far away.
Sheโs gone but in a haunting close kind of way.
Then you start to miss her.
Youโll look back and realize you didnโt appreciate her or value her the way she deserved. Because despite being shown the bad sides of you, you realize she always saw the good.
Youโll look back to every lie and excuse you ever told and you realize how understanding and tolerant she was of your BS.
Youโll look back and realize she probably deserved so many sorryโs but she never even asked for it or cared.
Youโll look back at everything she ever did for you and you realize you didnโt even invest half that effort into her.
Youโll look back at how many times you said no but when you asked her to be somewhere or do something she always said yes and was there.
Youโll look back and realize you werenโt kind to her and she never gave you a taste of your own medicine.
Youโll look back and realize she really did love you unconditionally and support you in everything you did.
Youโll look back and realize what you put her through yet she still came out wearing her heart on her sleeve loving really hard when you gave her every reason not to.
Youโll look back and realize as she tried to prove she deserved you, sheโs the one that deserves better.
And even if it takes a while to get over you because it will, she will love again.
And itโs going to be a person who realizes what they have when they have it, not someone who has to lose her to realize her worth.
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Youโll see them together and youโll see how happy he makes her and youโll remember when that used to be you who had every bit of her time and attention and heart.
She smiles bigger. Sheโll laugh harder. Sheโll hold his hand a little more tightly when youโre around. Because the truth is she loved you and cared about you and did everything she was supposed to and it still wasnโt enough.
Youโll find yourself in moments overcome with jealousy you donโt even have the right to feel because it could have been you. It should have been you. But she couldnโt keep waiting for you to realize what she knew all along.
Sheโll move on because she had to. And sheโll become happy because she deserves to. And sheโll fall in love because finally, that love she gave to you so carelessly finally came back to her.
Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words. Follow Kirsten on Instagram and Facebook.
Written by Kirsten Corley Originally appeared on Thought Catalog
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