How To Heal Your Most Debilitating Core Wounds

There’s a big difference between saying

“I was raped when I was a teenager but I was probably asking for it because I was drunk and being flirtatious,” and, “I was raped when I was a teenager.

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I know this because my sexual energy was violated and I found it difficult to get close to people for years. I still wake up from nightmares of my abuser breaking into my home.”

There’s a big difference between saying

“I might have been emotionally abused in my last marriage, but other people have had it so much worse than me,” and, “I was emotionally manipulated in my last marriage for so many years, to the point where I didn’t feel like I could trust my own mind in the slightest.

I still doubt myself constantly and never know if or when my emotions are appropriate in a given situation.” The point isn’t to be over-dramatic or to tell white lies.

The point is to be fully truthful. To own it fully. And that means allowing yourself to acknowledge the truth of the situation as you experienced it.

In practical terms, facing the full truth of your situation might look like writing out your full story on several pieces of paper or telling a close, trusted friend about your trauma or speaking to a coach or therapist for several sessions.

Whatever your truth is, it absolutely must be fully acknowledged and externalized before you can transcend it.

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2. Feel the feelings that you have access to

Once you have exposed the full truth of your situation to yourself, there will very likely be some (or a lot of) unfelt emotional residue to process.

You may have to sob, or yell, or lie down despondently, or stomp your feet or all of the above. Depending on the depth of the wound, this may take a matter of days, or a matter of years.

One of the most common fears that comes up when you are about to lean into this stage is,

“What if my sadness/anger/resentment/etc. goes on forever?

What if it’s a never ending well of emotion?”

Nothing lasts forever. Your sadness can be transcended. Your anger can be released. Feel your feelings fully, and you will release the stuck energy that has lived in your body for as long as it has.

 

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Jordan Grayhttps://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/
Sex and relationship coach Jordan Gray helps people remove their emotional blocks and maintain thriving intimate relationships. You can see more of his writing at JordanGrayConsulting.com
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