How to find contentment in life?
Sometimes we need to embrace the chaos and accept the struggle to move forwards and find peace & happiness.
Sometimes it’s okay to not know what the future holds and still take positive action. It’s okay to stop overthinking, over-analyzing, worrying, and stressing. It’s okay to stop doubting yourself and have the courage and the confidence to find peace within.
“Are we there yet?”
If you’re a parent, you’ve probably heard this phrase coming from the back seat of the car on a long trip. The patience of your kids has run out, but the trip is not over.
But it’s not only kids who have trouble waiting. We, adults, are just as impatient, especially when we’re in the midst of the struggle to reach our goals.
Time for a little transparency: Over the last several weeks, I’ve struggled with feeling irritable and unhappy at times. The strange thing was that I was experiencing some cool wins in my personal life and business. But for some reason, I wasn’t finding any joy in these victories.
More than once, my wife and son asked, “What’s wrong? We can tell something’s bothering you. You seem off somehow.”
I didn’t have a good explanation for why I was so out of sorts. Then it dawned on me: I was impatient because I couldn’t reach my goals fast enough. I had zero contentment and couldn’t find any joy in the blessings all around me. I had become impatient with myself and everyone around me.
I knew I had to change my perspective and attitude if I was going to find joy in the midst of the struggle to achieve my goals. So I sat down and worked through several principles that have helped me get back into the right frame of mind and find a sense of joy again.
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If you’re struggling to find contentment in the midst of the fight, keep pressing on, these will be helpful to you as well.
1. It’s about the journey, not just the destination.
Have you ever reached a goal, then found it wasn’t as fulfilling as you thought it would be? Me, too. When we focus on the goal itself rather than the process that gets us there, we’re missing out on the joy of the journey.
I’ve always loved the Sheryl Crow song, “Soak up the Sun.” At the end of verse 1, she sings, “It’s not having what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got.” That’s a great principle to keep in mind.
Our contentment in life can’t be dependent on just reaching periodic goals. There has to be more than that. We must learn to find joy not only in the final product (the goals) but in the process of producing it.
If you can’t be happy on the way, you won’t be happy when you get there.