If You Start Falling In Love With Him, Don’t Do This

What do you do when you REALLY like a guy?

How do you flirt, keep him interested and show him the engaging parts of your personality?

In this video you’re going to discover what you SHOULD NEVER do (and why) when you start dating a guy you REALLY like.

It’s easy to get caught up in the beginning–with all the feel-good butterflies and positive vibes in the air, who wouldn’t get a little swept away?

But that’s exactly why it’s so important to be AWARE of what you’re doing in the beginning!

Avoid making the critical mistakes I discuss in today’s video and you’ll still be open to love–only NOW you’ll be protected no matter what comes your way.

Summary –

Imagine this scenario. You met a guy at a work event a few weeks ago. He’s funny, cool, and asked you lots of questions about yourself. He really made you think things were going really well, and then he asked for your number. He started texting you. The dude clearly likes you.

And then you’re at this point where, wow, this guy’s really into me and I’m really into him. You start envisioning yourself together, what it’d be like to introduce him to your parents, how much better and cooler this dude is than your ex. You start to feel the warm and fuzzies.

But the warm and fuzzies are not necessarily about him. They’re about the idea of him and you together.

You’re falling in love with the idea of love, which is a big no-no.

Don’t get too excited and don’t get too eager.

You think you know him, but you don’t know shit about him. The dude might kick dogs. He might chew tobacco. He might even be a Giants fan. You don’t know yet. You know nothing yet.

Now, you might say, “Adam, you’re wrong. I do know this guy.”

But you don’t. I mean, remember that last guy you got involved with? Yeah, that guy…

Didn’t work out so well, did it?

Nope.

So if you find yourself falling in love with the idea of love, take a step back mentally.

From this point forward, you are not allowed to think of the future with a guy until you’ve created a present with him.

In my opinion, you really need six months in a committed relationship with someone before you even start thinking about any type of real future with them. Because if you start thinking of that future ahead of that, you are setting yourself up for potential heartbreak. Just see where it goes.

The first month you start dating a guy, he’s a stranger.

Do you remember when your mom told you not to talk to strangers?

Well, I’m here to tell you not to fall in love with a stranger.

Then for the next two months after that, he gets upgraded to an acquaintance.

He’s in your orbit and that’s great, but he doesn’t make a massive impact in your life quite yet.

Then finally for the next three months after that, he can become a good friend.

This is where you can see if you actually like the real person behind all the dopamine and norepinephrine and all that stuff that went into your initial feelings for the guy.

Become friends with him. See if you actually enjoy spending time with that person before really investing all of your emotions in him.

Then after those six months, you can start falling in love with the idea of the relationship and, of course, falling in love with him. Fantastic.

Now, I know it’s not easy to stop love from happening. I know it’s not easy to hold back your emotions. The best thing you can do is maintain an incredible life, maintain all those things that are going great in your life. And if you don’t have great things going on in your life, keep working to make that happen.

The worst thing you can do is change your entire life and change everything around you just for a guy you recently met — a stranger. I’m here to protect you, support you and guide you. So please, take this advice very seriously. Don’t lose yourself when you first meet a guy.

Adam LoDolcehttp://adamlodolce.com
Adam LoDolce is the founder of Sexy Confidence. He is one of the top dating confidence experts in the world. After touring the world and speaking at over one hundred of the country's top universities (Notre Dame, University of Alabama, University of Texas, etc.), he's refocused his efforts to address a burning need: helping women build the right type of confidence to be successful with men. He's been coaching, writing, and speaking on dating dynamics for over four years now. You will find that his coaching style is extremely untraditional and yet, immensely effective. He has helped dozens of self-proclaimed helpless women find love within weeks (not months) and have also coached some of the most powerful and successful women on this planet (foreign and national government officials, fashion experts, corporate executives, etc.). He's an author and film producer, but quite honestly, he's just a regular dude who's truly found his passion.
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