What do you do when you REALLY like a guy?
How do you flirt, keep him interested and show him the engaging parts of your personality?
In this video you’re going to discover what you SHOULD NEVER do (and why) when you start dating a guy you REALLY like.
It’s easy to get caught up in the beginning–with all the feel-good butterflies and positive vibes in the air, who wouldn’t get a little swept away?
But that’s exactly why it’s so important to be AWARE of what you’re doing in the beginning!
Avoid making the critical mistakes I discuss in today’s video and you’ll still be open to love–only NOW you’ll be protected no matter what comes your way.
Imagine this scenario. You met a guy at a work event a few weeks ago. He’s funny, cool, and asked you lots of questions about yourself. He really made you think things were going really well, and then he asked for your number. He started texting you. The dude clearly likes you.
And then you’re at this point where, wow, this guy’s really into me and I’m really into him. You start envisioning yourself together, what it’d be like to introduce him to your parents, how much better and cooler this dude is than your ex. You start to feel the warm and fuzzies.
But the warm and fuzzies are not necessarily about him. They’re about the idea of him and you together.
You’re falling in love with the idea of love, which is a big no-no.
Don’t get too excited and don’t get too eager.
You think you know him, but you don’t know shit about him. The dude might kick dogs. He might chew tobacco. He might even be a Giants fan. You don’t know yet. You know nothing yet.
Now, you might say, “Adam, you’re wrong. I do know this guy.”
But you don’t. I mean, remember that last guy you got involved with? Yeah, that guy…
Didn’t work out so well, did it?
So if you find yourself falling in love with the idea of love, take a step back mentally.
From this point forward, you are not allowed to think of the future with a guy until you’ve created a present with him.
In my opinion, you really need six months in a committed relationship with someone before you even start thinking about any type of real future with them. Because if you start thinking of that future ahead of that, you are setting yourself up for potential heartbreak. Just see where it goes.
The first month you start dating a guy, he’s a stranger.
Do you remember when your mom told you not to talk to strangers?
Well, I’m here to tell you not to fall in love with a stranger.
Then for the next two months after that, he gets upgraded to an acquaintance.
He’s in your orbit and that’s great, but he doesn’t make a massive impact in your life quite yet.
Then finally for the next three months after that, he can become a good friend.