The 6 Month Curse of Dating

Why don’t they act the way they did the first six months? What happened?

Why don’t they do the things they used to do during the first six months, like write me love letters? Why don’t they light candles like they used to do? Why aren’t they attacking me sexually in the same way?

Are they just bored with me? Do they no longer want these things?

Why is it that we are so amazing in those first six months of a relationship?

Are we trying to impress somebody? Are we trying to win somebody over? Are we being somebody we’re not? Are the first six months just that “amazing” time before all the arguments start and before we get defensive?

In the first six months, we allow ourselves to be emotionally open. We give so much emotionally to our partner.

When you start fighting with each other, however, we take something back. With each fight or misunderstanding after that, we take another piece back. The vulnerability, openness, and beauty of those first six months at that point are gone.

During the first six months you would invite your partner to your house, they’d say “Oh Babe, I love coming to your house,” and you would light candles. You do this over and over again during the first six months.

After the first six months, the candle-lighting goes away. Your partner comes over and says, “You don’t light candles anymore.”

Instead of just acknowledging that what they’re saying is true, you get defensive. You could have said, “You’re right, I don’t. I need to start doing that again. I know how much you loved it.” But you don’t. You defend yourself.

Those first six months of a relationship should always be the way I’m describing. It should always be amazing.

What happens in those first six months are the reasons why you fell in love with that other person in the first place — the things you used to do for them, the way you came onto them sexually, the way you listened and the way you were patient with them.

Read 5 Dating Deal-Breakers You Should Never Ignore

It’s amazing, though, how we take things away once the fights and disappointments begin. We don’t even necessarily do it consciously. We do it very passively.

Say that you and your partner touch each other nonstop during the first six months, then your partner stops touching you as much. What do you do?

You start taking some of your touchings away. You get angry. You hope that they will notice and think, “Oh my God, he’s not touching me as much. I must need to touch him more.”

The first six months of a relationship are beautiful. For those of you in that post-six month’s frustration period, however, what you need to do is to go back and think about all the things you did for your lover in the first six months. Then start doing them again, without your partner having to ask you to do them.

I guarantee that if you do this, you’ll not have the whole “taking things away” situation happening anymore. There will be no reason to fight about who is (or is not) doing things for the other.

I challenge all of you who are in a relationship right now, over the next thirty days to do all the things you did for your partner in the first six months you were together. All of them. Every single one. And do them every day.

I guarantee that if you do this for the next thirty days — acting sexually, emotionally, in your communication and in your intimacy the way you did the first six months — and you don’t expect anything in return, you will see your relationship come alive again.

Then watch what your partner will start doing for you. Like magic, they will start doing things you have been wanting them to do for months.

It’s amazing how easy it is to rekindle a relationship, but we all stand on principle so much that we don’t allow ourselves to do the things to make it happen. We’re so about “tit for tat” that we never grow.

So think about what you did for your lover during the first six months, and do them all over the next thirty days. Then watch how the dynamics of your relationship will totally change. It’s a beautiful thing.


Written by David Wygant
Originally appeared on DavidWygnant.com

In 2018, dating is more competitive than it’s ever been — download this free report to learn 6 proven skills to stand apart & succeed in the modern dating world.

The 6 Month Curse of Dating

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David Wygant

Dating, Relationships, Love; If you’re on this journey to find love, you’ve come to the right place. Because that’s why we’re all here: to find love. To find our twin flame, our soul mate, our high vibrational equal. And that’s where I come in. I will unlock your heart’s desires show you exactly what you’re looking for. I will empower you with the skills and the confidence to attract what you’re looking for. And I will guide you throughout this journey called to love so you can wake up every morning next to our mental, emotional and spiritual counterpart. Health & Wellness; I’ll teach you the secrets of becoming the healthy and fit person you want to be, not just physically but also mentally and spiritually; whether you want to lose weight, get that 6-pack you’ve always dreamed about, or simply become more mindful in your everyday life. Social Strategy; I wake up every day LOVING what I do. I’ve made millions and created an amazing life for myself based on effective communication and sheer moxie alone. This is what I call Social Strategy: Life changing strategies to help you become a master communicator to get what you desire in life, from dating to love to business and beyond. I give you unlimited social power and help you achieve social success so you can become the most confident, powerful, unstoppable version of yourself and truly live a life with absolutely NO LIMITS.

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Why don’t they act the way they did the first six months? What happened?

Why don’t they do the things they used to do during the first six months, like write me love letters? Why don’t they light candles like they used to do? Why aren’t they attacking me sexually in the same way?

Are they just bored with me? Do they no longer want these things?

Why is it that we are so amazing in those first six months of a relationship?

Are we trying to impress somebody? Are we trying to win somebody over? Are we being somebody we’re not? Are the first six months just that “amazing” time before all the arguments start and before we get defensive?

In the first six months, we allow ourselves to be emotionally open. We give so much emotionally to our partner.

When you start fighting with each other, however, we take something back. With each fight or misunderstanding after that, we take another piece back. The vulnerability, openness, and beauty of those first six months at that point are gone.

During the first six months you would invite your partner to your house, they’d say “Oh Babe, I love coming to your house,” and you would light candles. You do this over and over again during the first six months.

After the first six months, the candle-lighting goes away. Your partner comes over and says, “You don’t light candles anymore.”

Instead of just acknowledging that what they’re saying is true, you get defensive. You could have said, “You’re right, I don’t. I need to start doing that again. I know how much you loved it.” But you don’t. You defend yourself.

Those first six months of a relationship should always be the way I’m describing. It should always be amazing.

What happens in those first six months are the reasons why you fell in love with that other person in the first place — the things you used to do for them, the way you came onto them sexually, the way you listened and the way you were patient with them.

Read 5 Dating Deal-Breakers You Should Never Ignore

It’s amazing, though, how we take things away once the fights and disappointments begin. We don’t even necessarily do it consciously. We do it very passively.

Say that you and your partner touch each other nonstop during the first six months, then your partner stops touching you as much. What do you do?

You start taking some of your touchings away. You get angry. You hope that they will notice and think, “Oh my God, he’s not touching me as much. I must need to touch him more.”

The first six months of a relationship are beautiful. For those of you in that post-six month’s frustration period, however, what you need to do is to go back and think about all the things you did for your lover in the first six months. Then start doing them again, without your partner having to ask you to do them.

I guarantee that if you do this, you’ll not have the whole “taking things away” situation happening anymore. There will be no reason to fight about who is (or is not) doing things for the other.

I challenge all of you who are in a relationship right now, over the next thirty days to do all the things you did for your partner in the first six months you were together. All of them. Every single one. And do them every day.

I guarantee that if you do this for the next thirty days — acting sexually, emotionally, in your communication and in your intimacy the way you did the first six months — and you don’t expect anything in return, you will see your relationship come alive again.

Then watch what your partner will start doing for you. Like magic, they will start doing things you have been wanting them to do for months.

It’s amazing how easy it is to rekindle a relationship, but we all stand on principle so much that we don’t allow ourselves to do the things to make it happen. We’re so about “tit for tat” that we never grow.

So think about what you did for your lover during the first six months, and do them all over the next thirty days. Then watch how the dynamics of your relationship will totally change. It’s a beautiful thing.


Written by David Wygant
Originally appeared on DavidWygnant.com

In 2018, dating is more competitive than it’s ever been — download this free report to learn 6 proven skills to stand apart & succeed in the modern dating world.

The 6 Month Curse of Dating

Published On:

Last updated on:

David Wygant

Dating, Relationships, Love; If you’re on this journey to find love, you’ve come to the right place. Because that’s why we’re all here: to find love. To find our twin flame, our soul mate, our high vibrational equal. And that’s where I come in. I will unlock your heart’s desires show you exactly what you’re looking for. I will empower you with the skills and the confidence to attract what you’re looking for. And I will guide you throughout this journey called to love so you can wake up every morning next to our mental, emotional and spiritual counterpart. Health & Wellness; I’ll teach you the secrets of becoming the healthy and fit person you want to be, not just physically but also mentally and spiritually; whether you want to lose weight, get that 6-pack you’ve always dreamed about, or simply become more mindful in your everyday life. Social Strategy; I wake up every day LOVING what I do. I’ve made millions and created an amazing life for myself based on effective communication and sheer moxie alone. This is what I call Social Strategy: Life changing strategies to help you become a master communicator to get what you desire in life, from dating to love to business and beyond. I give you unlimited social power and help you achieve social success so you can become the most confident, powerful, unstoppable version of yourself and truly live a life with absolutely NO LIMITS.

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