We Fall In Love With 3 People In Our Lifetime: Each One for a Specific Reason

Fall In Love With People Lifetime

Have you ever thought about how many times we fall in love in our lifetime? When we are hopelessly in love with someone, it becomes unbearable even to think that this won’t last forever. But we do get heartbroken and we also break others’ hearts; sometimes knowingly and other times we just can’t help it.

Nevertheless, no matter how much pointless our existence seems to be after a breakup, with time, we move on with our lives, and again we find love. Some luck out in this department and find the love of their life sooner than the rest of us, while others have to wait for a long time to get the one who is for the keeps. But before meeting “the one”, we might have to turn quite a few pages of unfinished stories; stories of dashed hopes and unfulfilled dreams. After all, how many times can you fall in love?

How Many Times We Fall In Love?

Given that all our lives are different, if we look closely, we will realize we all fall in love with 3 people in our lifetime.

We Fall In Love With 3 People In Our Lifetime: Each One for a Specific Reason
We Fall In Love With 3 People In Our Lifetime: Each One for a Specific Reason

The reason for loving these three different types of people is also very different. We all need these three types of love to teach us distinct lessons in life. So dig in to find out more about who are these 3 people whom we give our heart to and how many times we fall in love.

The First Time We Fall In Love: The Love that Looks Right

The first time we fall in love is when usually we are still in high school or sometimes even younger. This love is somewhat similar to what we have read as kids. It is idealistic love. When we are hit by the cupid’s arrow for the first time, we tend to think this is it! There will be no love like this, in no other time.

We want to do it for the sake of society, for our families, mostly while trying to overcome peer pressure. We tend to believe this love will last forever and even if it doesn’t feel the most right thing we want to do it.  We are ready to ignore our personal truths, but all we want is to make it work somehow because our heart believes that this is what love is.

This type of love feels perfect, emotionally overwhelming, and all-consuming. We are ready to sacrifice everything to make it work because we are confident of its credibility. We don’t think about how many times we fall in love in our lives because our first love makes us naive and hopelessly optimistic.

Do you still remember your first love? Read The Impact of First Love on Your Life and Future Relationships

The Second Time We Fall In Love: The Hard Love

The second love can be called hard love, the love that teaches us tough lessons the hard way.

Going through this loved one understands who they are and the need for love in one’s life. It brings hurt as most of the people are manipulated and lied to by their lovers. In this type of love, one encounters pain.

We still have so many illusions that need to be broken. When think we have learned a great deal and are making better choices, in truth, we still opt from the need to learn the bitter truths of life. Despite the pain, we want to work on it as long as possible. Even if one relationship gets over, we keep getting back to the same types of relationships and make the same choices. Every time we think things would be different this time, but the end is worse than before.

Making the wrong choices leads us to the wrong people. We end up getting into unbalanced relationships. Relationships that are unhealthy.

And also with narcissists as we still haven’t developed the power of judgment that helps us distinguish between the right and wrong people. We get subjected to mental, physical, and emotional abuse, but still, we want to stick to such relationships. There are such extreme highs and lows that one feels as if one is riding on an emotional roller coaster. This prevents us from quitting because we are always ready to face the lows in the hope of the highs.

When in this type of love, trying to make it last is what seems more important than if it should exist at all. We wish with all our heart this love was right. We badly want it to be that way. Even by this time, we haven’t found the answer to the question of how many times we fall in love.

Have you ever been in a toxic relationship? Read 5 Ways You Feel When In A Toxic Relationship

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Victor Second

After working as a professional content creator for 3 years, now I work as a freelance writer with expertise mostly in lifestyle, relationships, self development and astrology.View Author posts