Guilt Trippers are world-class blamers, martyrs, and drama queens. They know how to make you feel bad by pressing your insecurity buttons. They use guilt to manipulate so you do what they desire. They like to see you squirm and throw you off your game. This gives them a sense of power and control.
Guilt can be conveyed with words, tone, or even a glance. Guilt trippers like to play dirty. To get their way, they exploit your desire to please them or be a good person. They often start sentences with, “If it wasn’t for you…” or “Why don’t you ever..?” They’ll talk about life being unfair and compare your efforts with others who’re doing it better. “Why can’t you be more like Buster–he’s so good to his wife and is such a hard worker.” They also remind you of how much they always do for you. After you’ve been guilt-tripped, you may feel two inches tall if you believe these people’s crafty ploys.
Are You in a Relationship With a Guilt Tripper? Take This Quiz
To determine if you have a guilt tripper in your life answer Yes or No to the following questions. Then you can use the strategy in this section to protect yourself from being energetically drained by them.
- Do you know someone who tries to get their way or control you by making you feel guilty? Yes/No
- Do you know someone who makes you feel “less than” by constantly comparing you to others? Yes/No
- Do you know someone who acts like an angry victim? Yes/No
- Do you feel emotionally and/or physically drained after being with someone who is complaining or berating you? Yes/No
- Do you know someone who you are always trying to please but never seem to do things correctly? Yes/No
Results of the Quiz:
Give each Yes response one point and count up your score.
Your Score: 0
Good news! If you answered “no” to every question then it is unlikely that you are in a relationship with a guilt tripper.
Your Score: 1
If you answered “yes” to one question then there is the possibility that you know a guilt tripper. Be watchful with this person(s) for any other indications and ensure that you address them early in the relationship.
Your Score: 2
There is an indication here that you know someone who is a guilt tripper. Make sure you understand all the ramifications and look for any vampire tendencies.
Your Score: 3
You are in a relationship with someone who has moderate guilt-tripping tendencies. Be very careful of your interactions with them and ensure that you have established good boundaries.
Your Score: 4
This person(s) definitely has guilt-tripping traits. Be very conscious of their manipulations and their ability to drain your energy. Keep your protection up.
Your Score: 5
You have a guilt tripper in your life and chances are this person(s) is also verbally abusive. Can you opt-out of the relationship? If not, again set good boundaries and learn the action plan below to protect your energetic well being.