INFJs have a darker side that is less talked about. Great names like Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela were the likes of this Personality type. But yet again, INFJs plays a host to the darker figures like Adolf Hitler and Osama Bin-Laden. All these people were passionate about what they did. They were in fact extremely passionate for a cause that they believe is good, true and just. Something that I’m sure many of us can relate to.
INFJs are often typecast as non-emotional and calm exterior but what belies is the seething mass of emotions and thoughts being played out.
Considering individuals Life experiences and Maturity level, INFJs can be polar opposites, whether perceived as good or evil, deep within they have a wave of emotion ready to drown the toughest. INFJs are factually correct and would do things only if they believe in.
However, I’d still like to delve a little further into the dark depths of the INFJ personality type. Taking a notice to few things INFJs typically struggle with.
Even if you think that INFJs are calm and content, the real inside of us can be difficult to understand. Our Mind is on constant jugglery with emotions and is at times hard to cope-up with all the side effects. Nearly always we are very reserved with our feelings and do not want to share for the fear of not being correctly understood. Even when we do talk about how we feel, we keep apologising. But the need to confide in someone is always way too strong. Sometimes when we talk about our deep feelings, we expect others to listen and not be judged. We may not share our feelings to anyone who criticises or gives too many advices.
Change is inevitable. INFJs have a tough time accepting the change. This is often considered as being stubborn. We tend to plan things way too much into future. We see things till the end of times. But not everything happens as planned. This obviously makes all the planning futile. Accepting this situation becomes uneasy and the mind becomes restless. Facing the reality does take time. But if given enough time for the mind to settle with truth, we can get along with life and accept the things as it is.
- Shadow of Stress
INFJs are not comfortable when forced to use Sensing. Making a “sensing mistake” that involves facts or details can make us “annoyed or defensive. On a small level, Stress can cause us to focus obsessively on external data making us irritable and obsessive. Stress can also make us overindulge in sensual pleasure like overeating, shopping for things we don’t need, and generally becoming self-centred. On a larger level, times of stress makes us take adversarial attitude toward the outer world. The third is a defensive response to feeling like the entire world is spinning out of control
Stress isn’t the only thing that can bring out an INFJ’s angry side. Conflict can also be the trigger to anger. When our inner values are questioned, we might become extremely Verbal harsh and rude. When we are wronged, we deal with patience and even when hurt inside, we try to stay calm. It is when this negative energy piles up, we react. Such reaction might be at a time of minor conflict and might feel like a sudden explosion of anger. But the frustration was built-up in course of time which happens to burst out on a simpler thing. At such situation, we might not be able to control what we say. We might speak ill and use heart piercingly strong word. If we could speak up when such minor offenses occur, we would be able to prevent such violent anger explosions.