commandments of resilience

5. Thou Shalt Honor The Trifecta Of Self-Care.

The trio of healthy lifestyle habits gives you the stamina to withstand just about any challenge the world throws at you. Thou shalt get regular exercise instead of being a desk potato. Chances are the places you’ve been working out are closed during the quarantine. Find other ways to exercise and stay fit while sequestered at home, such as jogs, walks, pushups, or lifting weights.

Thou shalt practice healthy, nutritious eating and steer clear of quarantine 15 and Grab, Gobble, Gulp, and Go. And thou shalt get plenty of rest and sleep instead of burning the midnight oil.

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6. Thou Shalt Keep A To-Be List Alongside Your To-Do List.

Make a to-be list alongside your to-do list, and think about what you would put on it. Meditate a minimum of five minutes a day. Make it a point to be outdoors as much as possible, watch sunsets and listen to nature: birds tweeting, insects in the bushes, or frogs croaking.

Jot down ways to get elbow room to stretch and deep breathe between appointments, time to walk around the block, and clear your head. Or enjoy the sweetness of doing nothing, pray, practice chair yoga at your desk, watch the grass grow, or just contemplate the universe.

The more you practice stilling your hurried mind and centering on the quiet places within you, the more you can access a calm state even in times of stress. After applying the brakes and doing something for nothing, creative ideas incubate and hatch, and you’re ready to go again. Then watch your resilience, creativity, and productivity soar.

7. Thou Shalt Ditch The Desire For Comfort, Take Risks, And Step Into Emotional Growth Pains.

Be willing to go to the edge of your emotional pain so you can be fully present with what lays beyond the barrier. Think of yourself as an elastic band that bends and stretches to a certain point before you spring back higher than you fall.

Turn roadblocks into stepping stones. Make it a goal to use negative challenges—no matter how painful, frustrating, big, or small—as lessons from which to learn. Ask, “What can I manage or overcome here?” or “How can I turn this matter around to my advantage?”

Identify self-doubts that have crippled you from growing fully. Harness them—instead of running from them—and channel them into useful skills so they don’t paralyze you. Find that one place in your life where you’ve been hiding, then stick your neck out from your comfort zone. Ask what edge you can go to. Seek out risky opportunities that help you bloom instead of low-risk situations that keep you safe in a bud.

8. Thou Shalt Embrace Uncertainty Because It Isn’t A Commodity You Can Count On.

As a result of the COVID-19 pandemic, things are different, and the uncertainty of what the future holds looms, breeding unease, fear, and anxiety. It’s more stressful wondering if you’ll get to your meeting on time than knowing you’ll be late. It’s less anxiety-inducing to know you missed the deal than being unsure of it. And it’s more fearful not knowing if you’re going to get sacked than knowing for sure you lost your job.

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Bryan E. Robinson, Ph.D

Bryan E. Robinson, Ph.D., is a journalist, author, psychotherapist, and Professor Emeritus at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. He has authored 42 books including his latest, #Chill: Turn Off Your Job And Turn On Your Life (William Morrow, 2019) and Chained to the Desk: A Guidebook for Workaholics, their Partners and Children, and the Clinicians who Treat Them (New York University Press, 2014), and Daily Writing Resilience (Llewellyn Worldwide, 2018). He is a licensed marriage and family therapist and a licensed mental health clinician. He maintains a private clinical practice in Asheville, NC, and writes for Forbes, Psychology Today, and Thrive Global. You can reach him at Author posts