Whether you are never married or Divorced, co-parenting with an ex or chose to be a single mother, one thing definitely stands true for you as you have entered the Single Mom status, Life will no longer be the same again!
According to the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) report in 2014, 17% of children in the world, aged between 0 and 14, lived in single-parent families. The report also suggested that these households are run by single mothers across 88% of instances.
Fast forward to 2018, and in the US alone there were 11.3 million families headed by a single parent. Across 81% of these instances, that head of the family was a woman.
‘The Life of a Single Mom’, a sensitization platform aimed to educate on single motherhood, reports that the US has 300% more single-mother led families than what it was back in 1960.
Switch to a different part of the world – Japan – and a 2018 Bloomberg report suggested that between 1992 and 2016, the country’s single mother household shot up by 50%.
On the other hand, child poverty in single-parent families was marked at 56%, the highest among nations covered by OECD.
A look at the numbers and one can easily imagine that single parenthood is no easy bargain. Especially for women, specifically because of emotional, biological and financial differences. The status of a single parent can come down hard on them.
However, it must also be said that with more awareness the world has come to acknowledge that women might well need to choose single parenthood over relationships that are toxic and dangerous.
That is still not to say that single motherhood comes with its own set of challenges and in this piece, we’ll get to know some obstacles and then ways to deal with them, without falling apart.
1. Financial distress
With children to look after and no partner to turn to in times of financial worry, single mothers are at a disadvantage.
It is also frequently believed that single mothers receive assistance from the government.
According to the 2009 US Census Data, only 41.3% of all custodial mothers receive financial assistance from the government.
Other problems like inequality in gender pay also contribute to the larger issue, leaving single mothers to fend for housing and general upkeep of their children, leaving little for education and health.
What you can do about it:
No matter what your pay packet is, one strategy to cope as a single mother is to proactively look at budgeting.
Some experts say that a stash that covers all realistic expenses including healthcare and education is a good direction to move towards and maintain.
Alongside this, it might also be important to sensitive your children about finances and what expectations of theirs can be met without hassle.
This will keep communication open and also allow you to provide an authentic space. Developing a plan to get better pay is also a long-term approach that can retain your ambitions and give you hope.
2. Inner critical voice
It is not tough to guess that when women come to be single mothers, they might still have notions of the “perfect family” intact. Consequently, they look at their own circumstances through that lens.