Here is why you should no longer care about people’s approval.
A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep. ~ Vernon Howard
Do you often seek approval?
Yes of course you do. We all seek approval from others, especially from those whose judgment about us matters the most. In fact, seeking approval can help us gain a different perspective on our own actions. You feel the need to assess and analyze the reason when your actions are constantly being disapproved by the people in your surroundings.
Social acceptance is a significant aspect of our existence. We are constantly working to be accepted and encouraged by our community.
So when does this approval-seeking behavior become a ‘demand’ instead of a ‘want’? I might ‘want’ to be ‘loved by others’ but I cannot ‘demand to be loved by others’. ‘Want’ and ‘demand’ are two distinct concepts. The first one is natural and healthy while the later is self-limiting and toxic because you cannot force someone to love you.
Many of our challenges start when it comes to approval-seeking behavior. You seem to lose touch with your real self when you pay heed on what others think of you.
Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner. ~ Lao Tzu
You need to learn to let go of approval-seeking behavior in order to live life on your own terms.
9 reasons why you should no longer care about what others think of you will remind you of its negative qualities:
1. You simply can’t be liked by everybody
If you are familiar with the term ‘Not everyone’s cup of tea’ you know half of the story. Everyone is unique in their own ways. No two individuals are exactly similar; to expect this is to be an utter fool.
Everyone perceives the world from their mental frame of reference. Hence, it is bound to be contradictory to that of others. You cannot impress everyone. Some people will never approve or accept you as you naturally are and you have to accept this crude fact at its face value.
Do you have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life. ~ Winston Churchill
2. You can live a happy life without “their” approval
While growing up we were told that in order to be liked by others we must try to please others by being polite and nice. Later in life, you will keep on encountering people who seem to never like you, in spite of you being good to them. And it’s not their fault.
You don’t have to depend on a few compliments from people. If you value yourself, love yourself.
Everyone has their share of likes and dislikes. If people fail to appreciate your unique potentials and qualities, then you have absolutely nothing to do about that.
Self-worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy. ~ Wayne Dyer
3. You can’t control what other people think of you
Your image, your thoughts, your ideas, and your actions are independent of what others think, feel or understand about you.
What I might like, others might not like that and what others like I might not like. It is as simple as that. In fact, you have to consider yourself where you have choices different from others.
We all have a different perception of how life should be lived and how people should act. Instead of wasting your time pondering over what others think and say of you, why not focus on improving oneself, knowing that:
Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocre minds. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence.” ~ Einstein