How to deal when someone breaks your heart?
There’s nothing more painful than having your heart broken by someone you love and trust a lot. It makes you feel sad, depressed and left out. Isn’t it?
You may keep thinking about it, again and again, feel guilty, cry, seek closure, and then back to square one. You may feel like it’s an end of the world and that you can never repair your emotional wounds.
We focus on problems to the extent that we fail to see numerous possibilities right in front of us. Eventually, we feel hopeless and helpless.
According to a study published in Comprehensive Psychology, hopelessness comes from pessimism and triggers negative expectations about the future. The study cited other research findings that found that hopelessness combined with helplessness increases the risk of suicidal behavior.
As per The Centre for Disease Control and Prevention, suicide is the eleventh leading cause of death for all US Americans. But, it’s a third leading cause of death for young people 15-24 years. Researchers identified that relationship or marital problems are one of the top causes of suicide.
We mustn’t forget that no matter how dark the night was, the sun always rises in the morning.
“A broken heart is just the growing pains necessary so that you can love more completely when the real thing comes along.” – J.S.B. Morse
As said by Miguel Angel Ruiz, “happiness and choice is suffering”. If you choose to rise over pain, you will become stronger. For that, you must learn from your mistakes and move forward.
Here’re 7 things to remember when someone breaks your heart:
1. Everything happens for a reason.
Not all romances are made to last forever!
Every person who enters our life has a part to play. They trigger our self-development and personal growth and shape us into who we are today. You are deeply attracted to a person because he or she could give you what you needed most at that point in life. They provide you the opportunity to learn, grow, become self-aware and achieve your goals.
That’s the beauty of life!
With time our thoughts, attitude, and outlook towards life change. Eventually, people fit in our lives might change as well. So, it’s important to evolve with time and accept the idea that people mostly outgrow each other. No matter how challenging it is, you will become stronger.
Say thanks to the universe for giving you cherishable memories with this person and move on. When going through a breakup, it can be quite difficult to have this perspective. As time passes you will find unpleasant feelings have faded.
You are inflicting more pain, by holding grudges, which can damage the next special relationship, you’ll have in the future.
You can control your emotions, but not breakups. Embrace your emotions, introspect your life and re-evaluate your goals and life vision. By making active choices you can open up your mind and heart. You will emerge from the darkness and see that life is a lot brighter and beautiful.
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2. Don’t let heartbreak destroy you
Life is a series of events. If you don’t move on you’ll never know how much happiness is lying ahead.
Why do you let one heartbreak traumatize you so badly?
Most people enter into depression and never want to talk to other men or women because it didn’t work out before. The worst thing is to start being dependent on alcohol and substances and spoil yourselves mentally and physically. It will only amplify your pain and the feeling of unworthiness. Everyone wants to be happy at the end of the day, but without efforts. It’s like-
Everybody wants to go to heaven, but nobody wants to die.