“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
It’s time we need to change the definition of true love.
Our never-ending quest for affection is one of our primal needs since time immemorial. Over the years the concept of love has evolved alongside us. But true love remains the same. True love is about selflessly giving and being prepared to sacrifice.
Loving someone surpasses external appearance, it outshines their talents and their achievements. True love encompasses the ability to see beyond the surface of the person, it involves being able to accept their soul, however broken or flawed it is; it the ability to accept their flaws and turn them into virtues, to find opportunities to grow together, to the best of each other’s versions.
A German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche believes that friendship entails the highest form of love because great friends inspire each other and can even push each other to achieve their peak potentials.
Love is born within one’s heart. It starts with loving the self and then loving your partner, your extension.
Love cannot and will not go to those who have an empty heart. True love comes from within. It starts with you. It comes to you abundantly when there is an abundance of it in your heart. It flows through you and it ends with you.
Seek not outside yourself, for all your pain comes simply from a futile search for what you want, insisting where it must be found. ~ from A Course in Miracles
That being said, these are the 6 things about true love that you should know:
1. Self love is the road to true love
Lasting love comes from the ability to love every part of yourself. Love yourself with all your heart, for who you are and for who you are not. Be generous and gentle to yourself and the whole world will follow. Unless you respect and love yourself you cannot extend that to someone else. People will perceive you the way you perceive yourself.
An external source of love is not ever-lasting. It will perpetually depend on the whims of others. But the love you have for yourself can only increase with time.
Love comes in abundance to those who have it in abundance in their hearts.
The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely. ~ C.G. Jung
2. True love is not about being complete with another
You are already whole and complete and the more you learn to love and accept yourself the more you will know this to be true. You do not need another individual to complete you. Your partner can only appreciate and nurture your completeness.
True love is not about finding your ‘other half’ but rather about sharing your completeness with them fully in order to grow and expand more and more each day.