Blame Shifting: Why The Abuser Blames You Even When You Are The Victim

Blame Shifting

Are you the victim of narcissistic abuse? Are you still trying to figure out the rationale behind their blame shifting game? How can an abuser blame you even when you are the victim?

To start off with, let’s just say that narcissism is not self-love. Narcissism is the overwhelming sense of superiority and perfection that one has for self. And even though they might come across as someone with a seemingly strong personality in the first meeting, over time you will realize that they lack true self-confidence and core.

They make it look like there is little that they care about others’ opinion for them but the reality happens to be completely opposite. Narcissists thrive for validation and they choose to surround themselves with only those people who constantly shower them with compliments.

The main issue with sociopaths and narcissists isn’t their behavior. It’s trying to build any kind of relationship with them.

Be it as friends or life partners, there are very fewer chances of them making an effort to move in your direction to come mid-way. They will frustrate you to a point from where you will start taking all the blames on yourself and feel that you are responsible for their behaviour towards you and that’s clearly not something anyone wants to feel. They know how to turn tables in a way that the ball is always in their court.

They are manipulative beings who know how to use your psychology against you. In short, there are too many blame shifting games involved in being with a sociopath. The accusing fingers of a narcissist will always find a victim to point their blames on.

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But before we tell you why narcissists and sociopaths indulge in blame shifting even though they are at fault, we think it’s necessary for you to know the traits of a narcissist. This is going to help you see the red signs clearly if there are any at all.

Following are the personality traits of a narcissist:

– constant feeling of being superior than the others (they don’t really check the level of the sea they are in, but when it comes to comparing, they always feel like they are better than the rest, even if their levels of achievements beg to differ)
– Entitlement to success, power, beauty, and excellence.
– They think that understanding them is beyond the capabilities of a normal person.
– No regards for others emotions. Not empathetic towards anyone but themselves
– Manipulative
– Arrogant body language and extremely hot-headed.

No matter how similar sociopaths and narcissists seem to be, sociopaths have a few more qualities in addition which makes them terrible partners.

Following are the personality traits of sociopaths:

-Dishonesty
-Rebellious without a cause
-Hasty
-Hostile and assertive
-Careless
-No consideration for others pain
-They lack the sense of safety when it comes to others.

Now that you are aware of the characteristics of sociopaths and narcissist, it’s time you sit down and see the number of boxes you can tick while thinking about a specific person. If some of the points match then it’s ok because we all have our different sets of imperfections.

But if the ticks are alarmingly high in number then take the red signs as a clear hint. They will do everything in their power to make you believe that the faults have always been in you. You need to protect your mental health and heart from such people because they won’t think twice before ruining it.

Related: 3 Mental States That Narcissists and Sociopaths Manipulate in Others

Now that you know what they do and how they do it, you might be intrigued to know as to why they do it to people who love them and we have an answer for that.

There are two main reasons behind the blame shifting

and the way they behave even though that can’t act a justification, you should still be aware.

Reason 1- A Never-ending feeling of superiority

For a narcissist, it’s impossible to believe that he/she can be wrong, ever.

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