4. “You’re too busy.”
This is a big red flag for us go-getting gals because we hear one of two things: “I expect you to give up what’s important to you so I feel special enough” or “I have nothing going on and will eventually be clingy and needy.” Either one makes us head for the hills.
You can feel disappointed that we don’t get enough time together. Chances are good we’re disappointed too. But meet us in the middle on this one. You’re busy too with things that are important to you.
“Wow, our schedules are so full. But I know we’ll find time to make something work,” sends an entirely different message and allows us to feel disappointed alongside you…and makes us want to create some space for you too.
5. “You don’t need me.”
No, we don’t. But that doesn’t mean we don’t want you.
In any long-term relationship, there are pendulum swings due to changing life circumstances. It is natural to rely heavily on one another and that’s normal. But prolonged co-dependency in a relationship is never healthy.
An empowered woman is very discerning about who gets space in her mind and heart. If you occupy any of her bandwidth and time that means you’ve been chosen. She’ll be there for you and you know she’ll be entirely grateful when you are there for her… you know, like a healthy relationship.
I’m not being harsh here … just direct.
If you want a woman who:
- isn’t out for rescuing,
- has her own passions, and
- doesn’t play games
… then you’re looking for a woman who doesn’t adhere to the outdated dating archetypes and schemes.
There’s a learning curve with us, sure.
But when the dust settles at the end of a long week, and a beautiful woman is focusing all her attention and passion on you, during the time she intentionally carved out for the man she loves … for dang sure, the last thing you’ll be thinking about is whether she’s “feminine” enough for you.
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Written by Triffany Hammond
Originally appeared on TriffanyHammond.com
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