4 Bullshit Myths About Men

Bullshit Myths About Men

Since the beginning of time, there have been so many myths swirling around about men, that everyone has believed without trying to delve deep and know the real story.

The old story is known.

Men are sex-obsessed, sports loving, money-providing, simple-minded Neanderthals while women are talkative, career-tolerating, husband-seeking, baby-making machines.

Stereotypes are super useful… if you’re a hack stand-up comedian.

In the real world, stereotypes simply keep you from seeing the truth of the individuals in front of you.

In this article I aim to debunk (through statistical evidence, and anecdotal evidence, from my own life and from ten years of working with people 1-on-1), some of the most persistent myths about men, and what they want in love and life.

If some of these stand out to you or even aggravate you more than others, let that show you something about your mind and about what your beliefs are about the world.

Here Are 4 Bullshit Myths About Men

1. Men want a docile, acquiescent lamb of a partner.

Myth: Men have tender egos that are easily threatened and thus need a romantic partner who is a spineless doormat who is fundamentally incapable of saying the word no.

It’s true… men who don’t have a grounded sense of their power will likely want a partner who is a bit of a pushover.

However, men who have done their inner work and have earned their way into being a mature man will not stand for such a partner. They want a partner… an equal… not someone to handhold and babysit.

If you have a leftover belief that tells you that all men are looking for helpless, codependent sex-dolls as significant others, then I would implore you to let go of this old paradigm.

All of the most self-actuated men I have ever known all wanted an intelligent, loving, challenging, self-realized woman as a partner to run alongside them in life. Because, at the end of the day, what we attract in a partner is also who we are.

Related: 9 Reasons Why Strong, Sensitive Men Are The Best Men To Love

2. Men aren’t interested in doing transformational work.

Myth: The self-development and relationship industries are geared towards women because men are entirely resistant and/or disinterested in doing deep inner work on themselves.

Another common myth that I have heard (exclusively from women, understandably) is that men aren’t interested in engaging inner growth work.

While I do believe that men may have more resistance to being a devout follower of a teacher/guru long-term than most women, the idea that men aren’t willing to look inwards and do their work is ridiculous.

I have met Tibetan monks who were in silent meditation for years and spent all of their waking hours in self-reflection. I have known dozens of men who traveled around the world to do years of work with Osho, Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Oprah, Abraham, Eckhart Tolle, and more. I have also personally been in a community of experience-oriented shadow work (led by my mentor P.T. Mistlberger) and a weekly men’s group for the last several years, and the community is filled with men who are hungry for truth.

So to all of the women who hide behind the idea that men aren’t interested in doing transformational growth work… no. Just no.

Whatever secondary payoff you get by hiding behind this belief (e.g. you get to remain in a relationship that isn’t meeting your needs), it’s time to let it go.

3. Men are all afraid of settling down.

Myth: Men are afraid of commitment, long-term relationships, and nothing sends them into a state of panic faster than when their partner wants to have the ‘define the relationship’ talk.

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