19 Real Life Examples of An Extroverted Introvert Yes I’m outgoing… But not all the time!


12. We bounce between wanting to be noticed for our hard work to panicking over the thought of somebody else paying more than 30 seconds of attention to us.

Sometimes we want attention, other times it’s hard to believe anyone would spend more than 10 seconds on us.

13. People think we’re flirtatious. We’re not.

We understand that interacting with people is a necessary part of life. So we make an effort to do it intentionally, and genuinely want people to know that they have our undivided interest and attention.

14. We get mad at ourselves for wanting to stay in and letting our friends down.

Which is why we sometimes force ourselves to go out. To let our friends know that we enjoy spending time with them, not because we want to be out.

15. We’re at your happiest in places like coffee shops and cafés: surrounded by people, but still closed off and keeping to yourself.

We just like being around people, even if they’re strangers. It’s the compromise of being around people but not having to talk to them.

16. We have a constant inner struggle of controlling our introverted side.

It’s frustrating because we’ll realize when we start withdrawing into our own minds and become extremely introspective. It happens when we’re in really big crowds. And the only thought is, “Oh no, it’s happening. No. I have to talk to someone now. But it’s so difficult. No. Yes, you have to talk or else you’re going to end up in your head for the rest of the night.”

17. We really don’t like small talk.

We’d avoid small talk if we could. We want to really get to know you. We want to know what you think about, what your goals are, what your family is like. We don’t want to talk about how bad the weather is. But if that’s what you’re comfortable talking about, then we’ll talk about it.

18. We don’t actually have a staple “group” of friends.

We often pick and choose one or two individuals from different social groups that make up our closest friends. But we make this handful of best friends our life and we’d do anything for them.

19. If we like you, we really like you. We’re extremely picky about who we spend our time and energy on. If we’ve hung out multiple times, take it as a compliment.

Seriously. If it’s such a struggle to talk to people and if we get so exhausting going out, it’s a big deal if we’re willing to spend our time and energy with you. It isn’t to say that we’re full of ourselves. We just wouldn’t want to spend that energy with people whose company we don’t enjoy.

By David Khim

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  1. Although I agree with the idea that we can't be put into boxes and labelled as introvert/extrovert as these are too restrictive, you've actually put yourself into a box that says extrovert-introvert. Forget the labels. Also, the fact you have put 19 ideas to describe your label appears to show you've tried to cover all bases and most of them don't ring true. Why feel the need?

  2. At times I have been the most extrovert person I have ever. At times I have been the most introvert I have ever. I'm only extrovert if I feel that the people around me have my back. If they don't, I'm not. If there is no-one, im not. But I have slowly been teaching myself to be extravert when I'm surrounded by people yet alone at the same time. There are some techniques/tactics I've come across for the switch….
    Being open… Open minded, open chest, open arms, head high.
    Being grounded – knowing where the ground is… Thanking gravity for rooting me to the floor, identifying what I can see, hear, smell and fee.
    Judgment – accept it and avoid the fear of it
    Breathe – deep slow breathes
    Confidence – fake it till you make it
    Voice – lower and project it
    Eye contact – strong…. Look into people's eyes and see their soul
    Purpose – act with purpose
    Fear – put it to the side.. You can have it later if you want
    Nike – just do it. Go for it. Give it 110%
    Passion – tap into it deeply
    Relax – where you feel it w
    I'll be useful

    Home – heal.