Violence Comes In Various Forms

It’s not just physical.

 July 14, 2019

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Violence comes in various forms



Forms of violence is varied but it’s evil in all forms. 

“Sticks and stones can break my bones, but names will never hurt me.”

Linda: The dictionary defines violence as “injurious physical force, action, or treatment intended to inflict harm.” The most important word in this definition is “intended”. What makes a behavior violent is that there is an intention on one or both parts to inflict pain or injury.

This invention is not necessarily driven by a sadistic desire to create suffering in the other person but may be motivated by the belief that a violent response is necessary in order to teach a lesson or to right a wrong. Many people, on the other hand, believe that the best defense is a good offense.

When someone feels the need to defend or protect himself or herself, a violent reaction can seem to be necessary. Ironically, when we default to verbal violence, threatening conditions are inflamed, not diminished, and the likelihood of reprisal is increased.

Violence isn’t limited to the use of physical force. It can be expressed in a variety of ways.

Most of us are more inclined to tolerate non-physical forms of violence than we are the more overt physical forms. Violence can occur in forms such as intimidation, verbal and non-verbal threats, body language, and menacing gestures. Silence can be an effective strategy to control or punish.

The violence of silence can at times be even more painful than verbal violence.

The pain of disconnection can run deeply in many of those [of us] who have experienced childhood loss and trauma. Most of us have been on both sides of the verbal violence equation and we know what each side feels like. We also know that the consequences of violence extend far beyond ourselves, and impact on the lives of those with whom we touch.




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Tolerating violence in any form is disrespectful and tears big holes in the fabric of trust.

It can take days, weeks, months or longer to grow back the trust that can be ripped apart in a moment. All forms of violence do stem from fear. The one acting out violence is afraid they won’t get their needs met, so they manipulate with control. Preventing or minimizing domestic violence requires self-discipline to de-escalate the situations that give rise to aggressive episodes.

For those who have difficulty managing their destructive impulses, [there are] anger management groups and individual therapy is available.

Words wound people and they can wound very deeply. Most treatment modes encourage perpetrators of violence to identify the self-talk, rationalizations, and justifications that he or she uses to excuse their behavior.




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