“True success is achieved by stretching oneself, learning to feel comfortable with being uncomfortable.” – Ken Poirot
Feeling pain & discomfort is a part of life. Irrespective of how much we want to avoid them, these uncomfortable feelings sit comfortably inside us. Whether it’s embarrassment, hopelessness, guilt, sorrow, regret, anxiety, anger, fear or any other painful emotion, dealing with uncomfortable feelings is crucial. Running away from what you feel will simply hold you back and prevent you from experiencing life as it is.
Get comfortable with discomfort
Dealing with discomfort is an art. But the problem is that most of us have not been taught to deal with such emotions effectively. Hence, we have mastered the art of avoiding uncomfortable and painful feelings without realizing that these emotions can actually help us live a better life. We have figured out some unhealthy methods for managing and avoiding uncomfortable emotions through various toxic means like sex, drugs & alcohol that offer some temporary respite at the expense of our well-being.
However, dealing with uncomfortable feelings is easy to learn. In fact, once you know how to deal with your emotions you will be able to improve yourself and create a better life for yourself. If you want to be healthy, successful and happy, you better start facing your emotions instead of avoiding them.
Face what you are afraid of
It’s going to be hard, but it’s definitely doable.
Here are 4 simple yet effective ways for you start dealing with uncomfortable feelings.
- Observe your feelings
- Face your emotions
- Be your best friend
- Experience life as it is
1. Observe your feelings
The very first step to coping with difficult emotions is to observe what exactly you are feeling without judging them. Sit silently where you will not be disturbed or distracted and spend a few moments observing what feelings you experience. You may feel pain or discomfort or anxious. Realize what makes you feel uncomfortable without getting engaged or involved in your emotions. Also make sure you do not judge yourself for feeling a certain way no matter how uncomfortable it gets.
2. Face your emotions
Once you know what feelings you are experiencing, then you need to face them boldly. Running away from uncomfortable emotions will not get you anywhere irrespective of how fast and how long you run. We don’t want to feel discomfort or pain. That’s our natural instinct. You surely don’t want to put your hand on a hot stove knowing full well that you will get burnt. But when it comes to emotions, the same rules don’t apply.
Emotions are like wounds, the more you avoid them the more infected they become. Instead, you need to care for them and heal them. Giving the right attention to your uncomfortable feelings will help you cope with them and even help you heal emotional scars with time.
3. Be your best friend
The problem with dealing with uncomfortable feelings is that we can’t really express what we are going through to even our loved ones. It’s a very internal thing most of the times. This is why you need to be your own best friend. Face the pain you are experiencing and be kind and supportive of yourself. Give yourself the advice you would to your best friend if they were facing the same thing. Give yourself the time necessary and do not rush through the process. Let it happen naturally.
4. Experience life as it is
Once you start dealing with uncomfortable feelings, you will start finding happiness through both good and bad experiences in life. Instead of focusing on a destination that you want to reach, try to find happiness in the process. Find beauty in what you are going through right now and realize how this process will transform you into a better and stronger person. Only by opening yourself to what life has to offer, you will be able to live life to the fullest and enjoy it.