10 Solid First Date Tips To Make Your First Date Awesome & Make Her Like You
Okay! So you have finally managed to ask a girl out on a date and she agreed. Great! She is pretty, smart and amazing. You like her. She may like you. This may lead to something. Or at least that’s what you feel. Well, you should. No one wants to keep dating new people day after day, week after week, month after month.
We all hope to meet a special someone and have something meaningful, something that will last.
And all that can happen just by having a great first date, which hopefully leads to a second one and a third one and so on.
But this is where it gets super scary for us men. Making sure your first date goes perfectly can be nerve-wracking. While on the date, you want to make sure that she likes you. You want to show her that you’re interested, you are having fun and you’re connecting. But you don’t want to come off as desperate and needy either.
Trying too hard is never a good idea when it comes to impressing women.
This is why you need smart first date tips & hacks that will help you to remain confident and play it cool while having fun on your first date with a girl who just might The One.
Dating is hard for men
In this era of Tinder, dating has become a nightmare for both men and women. Yes, it is easier to meet someone these days through those tons of dating apps, but it is even harder to meet someone who you would consider meeting a second time. And it is even harder for men. Why? Men are expected to be charming, brave, successful, emotional, strong, funny, sensitive and whatnot. But that’s not the worst part. When it comes to dating, women tend to have the upper hand.
Unless you are a player or pickup artist, you will feel anxious and nervous to some extent when meeting a beautiful woman, asking her out and finally going on your first date with her. This is a sad reality as most men have been programmed to have a scarcity mindset. We feel insecure and helpless when dating an attractive woman. We feel she holds all the power. We feel lucky that we get to take her out on a date and this is why we try too hard and appear desperate. With this scarcity mindset, we tend to forget that we are attractive too.
If she is talking to you, she must have found something interesting about you.
If she has agreed to go out on a date, she must find you attractive too.
If she is laughing and enjoying the date, then she is enjoying your company.
You’re good enough for her.
There is no need to put her on a pedestal just because you like her and believe she is The One. If she is the one for you, then things will happen naturally. You will automatically feel a connection and get closer. The secret tip to having a great first date and making a connection is confidence. Believe that you are enough and you are likable, cute, funny, smart and adorable just like she is. If she is a princess, you’re no less than a knight in shining armor.
Nice guy or bad boy? The attraction dilemma
With tons of contradictory and confusing first date tips & advice available online, men are being set up to fail when it comes to dating attractive women. Society expects us to be compliant in a relationship and be cooperative with women. However, we are also expected to be ambitious, assertive and have a sexually attractive personality to make women interested in us. Finding a balance between the two can be very difficult and often leads to dissatisfaction, disappointment, and disrespect from women.
As a result, dating in the modern world can be nothing less than torturous for us. If you decide to become a nice guy and be compliant, then you may be able to get into a relationship. However, as women are biologically and socially wired in a particular way they find compliant partners unattractive in the same relationship. Hence, this leads to increased arguments and fights in relationships, loss of physical intimacy, infidelity and getting disrespected by the women. No man wants that in a relationship.
On the other hand, if you have a bad boy attitude, you will be deemed biologically attractive. You will have a lot of success with women, you will be able to go on dates with different women and have more than enough sexual partners. However, you will also be perceived as players, jerks, creeps and even sexist by most women. You will be considered unfit for a meaningful relationship and will not be seen as husband material. Most likely you will never experience true love nor will you be respected by women.
How to get girls to like you
So how can you get a beautiful woman attracted to you and stay loyal and respectful? Well, here are a few simple ways to become more attractive to women instantly:
As I said earlier, confidence can be a game-changer in dating. Women love confident men. Period. They don’t find needy, awkward, desperate and insecure men attractive. Regardless of what they tell you, you will have no chance with a woman by being unconfident. They might still keep you around to boost their ego, but it is highly likely you will be never be a romantic or sexual partner. So be confident. Talk to them openly and honestly. Show them that you value yourself and respect her. It doesn’t have to be that hard. Simply stop doubting yourself and believe that you deserve to be with her. If nothing else works, fake it will you make it. But be confident.
2. Develop an abundance mindset
Getting rejected or breaking up can be devastating. I get it. I have been through these myself and I know how it feels. But you need to understand there are many other women available out there who are just as amazing as the girl you thought was The One. Irrespective of how she behaves with you, never chase her. Let her know that you are interested. Show her that you like her. But don’t go out of your way to pursue her. Stand your ground and let her come to you. If it’s meant to be, it will be. If not, you never know who you may meet next. She just might be the one you were looking for.