Navigating the dating landscape can be tough especially in today’s times. Everyone shows their best side on social media and on the first dates. But after a few days, slowly the red flags start showing up, and you feel like where did you go wrong. The secret lies in the first date itself. Before you decide to take things further with someone, make sure there are a few things you look out for on a first date.
How can you recognize if what the person is portraying is really who they are at the core or if they are just wearing a mask? How can you get a good read on the person? Wouldn’t it help if you had a first date checklist to help you navigate the way?
Yes, knowing what to look for on a first date is crucial to deciding your future with that person. So, keep your eyes and ears peeled and try to understand who they truly are.
Here Are 10 Things To Look For On A First Date
1. Are they punctual?
The first impression is the last impression – you must have heard this adage before, and this rings true whenever first dates are concerned. Someone who makes you wait a long time for them doesn’t respect your time and the effort you put to reach the date on time. And if someone does not value your time, you cannot expect them to value you either. This is not at all a good start to the date.
Yes, there might be many justifiable reasons for them arriving late, but the least they can do is inform you about that, instead of keeping you waiting and wondering if at all they are going to turn up or not. Just a simple text or call is sufficient to convey that they are running late and let you know that they are looking forward to the date, just like you are.
2. Is the conversation flowing smoothly?
There is nothing more attractive than being with someone with whom conversations are effortless and organic. The way your conversation flows with someone is a fair indicator of mental compatibility and ease. There are a few things you should look for when it comes to smooth communication:
Do they seem interesting and fun and are able to make you curious to get to know them better?
Is the conversation effortless or contrived?
Is there a balanced give and take or is it one-sided and awkward?
The answers to these questions can help you understand whether you are on a date with the right kind of person or not. So, focus on these pointers and see what they tell you.
3. Are they polite to the service staff?
This is one of the most important things that you should look out for on a first date. Anyone who treats waiters and other service staff with rudeness, contempt, and impatience is not a good person. Anyone who tries to show their power by putting down people who are ‘inferior’ to them, do not have the right values and are honestly despicable.
If you go on a date with someone who is respectful, nice, and courteous with the staff, then it’s a big green flag. Their pleasant demeanor tells you that they treat everyone around them with respect and niceness, irrespective of who they are.
4. Are they interested in knowing you?
There are always two people on a date. So if the person you are with is not interested in knowing you at all, you better not pursue it further. Small talk can feel awkward and forced at times, but it is necessary, at least initially. Once the small talk is out of the way, see how the conversation is flowing. Are they asking you interesting questions so that they can know you better? Or are they constantly talking about themselves, and showing absolutely no interest in you?