3 Things To Avoid If You Want Him To Ask You On A Second Date

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If you are eagerly planning for your crucial second date, then you have hit the right post. Knowing what to do is sometimes not enough! You also need to know what not to do. Hereโ€™s what to avoid if you want him to ask you on a second date.

One of my male friends recently found himself in a really common situation that I want to talk about today.

He met a new woman on Tinder and initiated their in-person meeting after exchanging a weekโ€™s worth of text messages and calls. It went well. Their phone conversations were good and went longโ€“ sometimes running an hour or two. After their first meeting, they talked daily.

The following Wednesday, after he got in touch to say hello, she asked what he was planning to do that day.

He listed what he was planning. His response didnโ€™t include her or much of anything else besides spending time with his son and finishing out his busy workday.

She responded with โ€œso Iโ€™m not seeing you this week?โ€

As he often does, he got in touch with me to share his annoyance with her approach.

So what happened here?

What went wrong asking about second date?

First, she pre-rejected herself.ย 

She took his response as aย rejectionย and then reacted to the perceived rejection.

But my friend wasnโ€™t actually rejecting her.

He was simply answering her question. He didnโ€™t have a grand plan for what he was doing with this woman. He was just going about his normal day.

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Next, she implied that he was doing something wrong by not asking her outย yet.

This was a normal Wednesday for him.ย 

For her to say โ€œso Iโ€™m not seeing you this weekโ€, she implied that he was doing something wrong by not scheduling a dateโ€ฆย yet.

And itโ€™s Wednesday.

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Some women sabotage themselves when they fall for the mistaken idea that if a guy doesnโ€™t make plans for the weekend by the beginning of the week, he doesnโ€™t want to see them at all.

This was the furthest thing from his mind. To him, they were in touch.ย 

Whether he was or was not planning anything at that moment is irrelevant since he was interested enough to be speaking to her daily in the first place.

She basically made up something in her head about what he should/should not be doing and then passive aggressively attacked him over it.

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Third, nagging a man about his behavior is not a good way to inspire him long term (or even short term in this case).

The sad part about this exchange is that her comment was actually meant as a bid to see him again. Instead, it came off naggy and out of place because it came from a place of lack and rejection.ย 

Even this short comment made him want nothing to do with her.

And unfortunately, thatโ€™s how quickly masculine energy people will disappear when they feel disrespected.

So, why was her comment disrespectful to him?

Because it points to a lack of respect for his timing. And the masculine energy source absolutely rules timing.

When you disrespect a masculine manโ€™s timing by being passive-aggressive about his choices like this, he willย notย give you more time. He will give you less.

If she wasnโ€™t in her own anxiety about what he was doing, she could have tackled this situation with him in several different ways:

She could have gone into her own masculine and asked him out herself.

She could have waited and let him make a plan.

She could have done nothing (including having no anxiety about any of it) from a place of total security in her own irresistibility (best and what I teach inside my group coaching programย Manifest True Love).

In the last position, she would have been at her most irresistible and he would have been at his most likely to be very attracted to her and ask her for a second date.

Iโ€™m not saying this to be hard on her or make either one of them into saintly beings with perfect dating behavior.

My point is to explain what happens when people let their anxiety take control of their dating situation.

Being in theย feminine energyย is great.ย 

Being in masculine energy is great.

Being in anxiety isย not.

A primarily masculine person in anxiety will be over-controlling and crush the feminineโ€™s emotional processing, which will prevent her feelings for him from growing.

A feminine person in anxiety will lose faith and patience in their own attractiveness and irresistibility.

This womanโ€™s behavior points to her wanting to be the feminine partner because she wants HIM to make a plan.

Doing and initiating and planning is inherently masculine energy.

Thereโ€™s nothing wrong with her initiating as long as she wants to be the masculine partner.

And thereโ€™s nothing wrong with waiting for him to ask her back out (even if he never chooses to do so) if she wants to be in her feminine.

In this case, sheโ€™s doing neither one since sheโ€™s in anxiety.

Her statement gives away that sheโ€™s not able to respect his timing OR go all the way into her masculine and ask him back out.

Since heโ€™s interested in being the masculine partner, he would be much more excited about the relationship if she let him pursue her.

Finding a way to ask to see him again might not be fatal either, since there are many ways to inspire a man to make a plan.ย 

Or she could make one herself if she chooses to be in the masculine.

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But passively aggressively nagging a man who has not decided to make a plan will not inspire his devotion.

All this approach did was make him completely resistant to even speaking to herย ever again.

And sadly, she probably hoped to see him again. Otherwise she wouldnโ€™t have brought it up.

Have you ever snapped at a man because you were worried he didnโ€™t want you?

I know I have.

This is just one of the love blocks I cover in myย 7 Blocks to Manifesting Love Masterclass which you can find here.

Click here to sign up now.

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Written by: Elizabeth Stone
Originally appeared on: attracttheone.com
and is republished here with permission.
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