What are the things to remember when you feel broken inside?
Life is never a smooth ride.
You might now be swearing to god that, life has broken you several times and it’s been a continuous pattern.
Hold on. I know. And dear, you are not alone. Here we are all with you because there is not even a single person in this world who has not been broken.
There could be innumerable things that might have broken you – loss of your job, divorce, separation from your romantic partner, bereavement, or your abusive relationship. Whatever might be the reason to have a broken heart, you should know a few things that will keep your fighting spirit high and will never let you give up on hope.
I know, when your heart is breaking into a thousand pieces, keeping up the urge and strength to fight your overwhelming emotional reaction feels almost implausible. But trust me, every time I have been there, I have emerged out stronger than before. It’s like a never-ending process of transformation, where the nastier the blow, the stronger you materialize.
Your heartbreaking inside can lead you to believe that there is nothing positive about your life. No matter how dark the tunnel is, you should know that the light is always on the opposite side of the tunnel. Hope is the guide you have to rely on.
The road to ultimate happiness, contentment, and mental peace transpiring grief and pain might seem to be a dark one but these following things you should always remember when you feel immensely broken inside.
Here are 7 things to remember when you feel broken:
1. Remember to anticipate positive changes.
Often we feel broken beyond repairable. It feels like the end of the world and finding hope and optimism becomes increasingly difficult when we are suffering in pain. We feel like we can never get over the mess that we have put ourselves in. And it is absolutely natural to feel this way.
When we get stuck in circumstances that are consistently getting overbearing on our available coping resources, we only keep focusing on the negative aspects of our life. Think of those times, in the past, when you have been broken. Ask yourself, did it seem easy then?
Did you believe you could come out of all of it?
How did you come to where you are today?
When we ruminate on negative things, we fail to focus on the positive. Hence our anticipation of the future is often dark, hopeless and purposeless. But if you could overcome the pain in the past, you can for sure do it this time too.
Our beliefs hugely influence the outcomes of our life incidents, this phenomenon is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. This “prediction” or expectation of the person comes true simply because one believes it will, and their resulting behaviors align to fulfill those beliefs.
Keep believing that you are going to see positive changes in your mood, and in your life. Also, work accordingly.
Good days are coming soon.
2. Remember to reside in the present.
I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is. ― Alan Wilson Watts
When we are sad, broken we are disillusioned to live in the past, gradually losing grip over our present. If you let your negative thoughts to get the best of you, you will recurrently slip into the cycle of despair and anguish. On the other hand, thinking of positive experiences will surely bring you joy.
The key here is to focus on the present. Most often our cause of feeling broken lies in the past; we keep on ruminating the negative incidents that have devastated us, broken our self-esteem and left us vulnerable. What you can do to not let these negative thoughts take over us is to not focus on the content of the thought.