7 Things To Remember When You Feel Broken Inside

feel broken inside

Life is never a smooth ride. You might now be swearing to god that, life has broken you several times and it’s been a continuous pattern.

Hold on. I know. And dear, you are not alone. Here we are all with you because there is not even a single person in this world who has not been broken.

There could be innumerable things that might have broken you – loss of your job, divorce, separation from your romantic partner, bereavement, or your abusive relationship. Whatever might be the reason to have a broken heart, you should know a few things that will keep your fighting spirit high and will never let you give up on hope.

I know, when your heart is breaking into a thousand pieces, keeping up the urge and strength to fight your overwhelming emotional reaction feels almost implausible. But trust me, every time I have been there, I have emerged out stronger than before. It’s like a never-ending process of transformation, where the nastier the blow, the stronger you materialize.

Your heartbreaking inside can lead you to believe that there is nothing positive about your life. No matter how dark the tunnel is, you should know that the light is always on the opposite side of the tunnel. Hope is the guide you have to rely on.

The road to ultimate happiness, contentment, and mental peace transpiring grief and pain might seem to be a dark one but these following things you should always remember when you feel immensely broken inside.

Related: 3 Positive Changes You Experience When You Start Thinking For Yourself

Here are 7 things to remember when you feel broken:

1. Remember To Anticipate Positive Changes.

Often we feel broken beyond repairable. It feels like the end of the world and finding hope and optimism becomes increasingly difficult when we are suffering in pain. We feel like we can never get over the mess that we have put ourselves in. And it is absolutely natural to feel this way.

When we get stuck in circumstances that are consistently getting overbearing on our available coping resources, we only keep focusing on the negative aspects of our life. Think of those times, in the past, when you have been broken. Ask yourself, did it seem easy then?

Did you believe you could come out of all of it?

How did you come to where you are today?

When we ruminate on negative things, we fail to focus on the positive. Hence our anticipation of the future is often dark, hopeless, and purposeless. But if you could overcome the pain in the past, you can for sure do it this time too.

Our beliefs hugely influence the outcomes of our life incidents, this phenomenon is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy. This “prediction” or expectation of the person comes true simply because one believes it will, and their resulting behaviors align to fulfill those beliefs.

Keep believing that you are going to see positive changes in your mood, and in your life. Also, work accordingly.

Good days are coming soon.


2. Remember To Reside In The Present.

“I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” ― Alan Wilson Watts

When we are sad, broken we are disillusioned to live in the past, gradually losing grip over our present. If you let your negative thoughts get the best of you, you will recurrently slip into the cycle of despair and anguish. On the other hand, thinking of positive experiences will surely bring you joy.

The key here is to focus on the present. Most often our cause of feeling broken lies in the past; we keep on ruminating about the negative incidents that have devastated us, broken our self-esteem, and left us vulnerable. What you can do to not let these negative thoughts take over us is to not focus on the content of the thought.

Suppose, your partner has insulted you before she left you, instead of focusing on the content of the incident, focus on what emotion is triggered in you.

Suppose she said, “you are a worthless person, incapable of keeping me happy.” Do not focus on this content, rather, label it as “criticism” and focus on how it made you feel.

Did it make you feel small? If yes, then why?

These procedures will help you introspect your deepest conflicts, fear, and insecurities which will lead to a permanent solution.

3. Remember To Practice Gratitude.

practice gratitude

Over the years we all acquire knowledge about the self and the world around us. This is how we form cognitive schemas about a number of things around us.

When one repeatedly experiences lows in life, one forms a core belief about one’s own self, like, “I am not lucky enough,” or “I am meant to be in pain,” or “My fate is to suffer.” These are self-limiting beliefs that we hold about ourselves, and as it comes with experience, it’s often hard to modify them. It might be difficult to modify, but it’s not impossible.

Whenever we focus on our negative thoughts, we tend to generalize them to all aspects of our life.

Now, these negative thoughts do not define your entire life. Think. Aren’t there any positive experiences in your life? Do you not feel lucky for everything that you have?

Always remember when you feel broken, the things that you have, someone else might be praying for. So feel gratitude for them. Value those little things in life that has a bigger impact. A lost job, a separated partner can be found anew, but a moment spent with your aging parents, fun with your siblings, a moment of happiness spread to people who need it is irreplaceable and invaluable. Feel grateful for all the little moments in your life so far, that brought you happiness.

Related: The Importance Of Gratitude, And Best Ways To Practice It

4. Remember To Inculcate Positive Self-Talk.

self talk

When every drop of our blood is draining from our hearts, like it’s shattering to pieces, we often give in to negative self-talk. These negative self-talks seem to align with our low mood at that point in time.

We start to listen to the voice inside us, sabotaging every drop of self-confidence that we have. At this very moment, you have to take control and start to consciously mold the negative self-talk into self-upgrading, self-promoting positive self-talks.

Change negative self-talk like “I am a miserable being,” or “I cannot help myself out of this situation,” or “I am worthless and deserve to be punished,” to positive self-talk using statements like “I am going through a hard time but I can get over this as I did before,” or “I have the strength and capacity to move out of this mess,” or “I will somehow help myself out of this situation.”

Related: How To Boost Your Self-Esteem Quickly: 12 Simple Tips

5. Remember That Life Is Uncertain.

Life is a mystery. For you for me and for everyone else. We forget how unpredictable it is. Also not remembering a very crucial fact about it, that it is short and about to get over anytime, without notice!

So what does this tell you about life?

That life is now and here. Even one second wasted in reflecting on negative experiences is not worth its price. If you are going through a hard time now, you never know if beautiful days are on their way or not. Hold on. Keep grinding. Happy days come as a surprise.

“Every single day is a good day no matter how bright or dark it is because it always brings an opportunity to start a positive beginning in your life.” ― Edmond Mbiaka

6. Remember To Ask For Help.

Your pain can acquire a magnanimous shape and cope with it alone can get difficult. Do not feel embarrassed to ask for help even if in the beginning sharing your vulnerabilities seem too overpowering.

Know that people around you, who you can trust will never take advantage out of your low times. They are here to help, to listen, to understand and to empathize.

Keeping all of your thoughts bulge and grow inside you will only make it difficult to cope with time. Let it out by talking about it to people who you believe can understand where you are coming from.

If you feel the need to, talk to a counselor for better advice on handling your pain.

Related: 7 Stages Of Grieving A Breakup And Finally Letting Go

7. Remember That Nothing Lasts Forever.


Nothing lasts forever. No. It is not to remind you of your losses but a sweet reminder to the fact that even your hard days not temporary. Give yourself time.

Let your pain incubate. Sometimes, leaving your hurt, pain the way it is, without trying to poke, probe, or tease it, helps in faster recovery. In times of hardship and misery, don’t forget to remember that even your worst nightmares come with an expiry date as your happy days do.

“Life is tough darling, but so are you.” 

You know it. Right?

7 Things To Remember When You Feel Broken Inside
7 Things To Remember When You Feel Broken Inside
feel broken inside pin
feel broken inside pinop

— About the Author —

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Up Next

5 Things That Hold You Back From Achieving Your Dreams

Things That Hold You Back From Achieving Your Dreams

Do you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to get out of it? Achieving your dreams and achieving your goals can feel intimidating when there are things that hold you back, more like, obstacles. Read on to know more about the things that stop you from achieving your goals.


Five main obstacles stop people from achieving their career dreams.

Fear of failure is high on the list.

There are workable strategies for overcoming the main career obstacles.

Up Next

How Can I Become More Confident: 10 Effective Tips To Gain Confidence and Boost Self-Esteem!

How Can I Become More Confident in Transformative Ways!

Confidence, in the vast theatre of life, is like a bright floodlight that shines on everything we do. It’s as if it’s a magic ingredient that changes ambiguity to attractiveness, indecision to elegance, and doubt to faith.

When people ask how can I become more confident? It often feels like they are asking how do I stop being scared and worried.

If you are going through similar struggles, don’t worry we have got you covered!

This article is just like a friendly guide that looks into everything affecting your confidence level. We will give you simple tools for breaking free from self-doubt and finding your self-confidence.

Up Next

Finding Your Way: 10 Steps To Move Forward When You Feel Stuck

When You Feel Stuck: Steps For Moving Forward In Life

When you feel stuck, it can make you feel like you are caught in quicksand and you are sinking and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to get out of it. But there’s always a way out of every sticky situation in life. Whenever you are feeling stuck in a rut, remind yourself of these 10 things you can do to stop feeling so bogged down.

Let’s explore what to do when you feel stuck and how to stop feeling stuck in life.


The sooner you can free your thoughts, the better you will feel.

Work on a different

Up Next

7 Reasons Why People With Difficult Childhoods Soar In Resilience: The Phoenix Effect !

Causes People With Difficult Childhoods Soar In Resilience

Growing up is not always an easy journey to be in, is it? And especially for some people, it can be particularly difficult, and traumatic even. However, people with difficult childhoods, more often than not, are the ones who grow up to be extremely resilient. The situations that could have knocked them down for good, they use those situations to become even stronger.

Every time they are knocked down, they get back up and do what they need to do to thrive. It’s nothing less than a superpower! Resilient adults overcoming a cruel past is one of the most inspirational things to witness.

This article is

Up Next

How To Not Be Awkward Around People: 10 Effortless Steps

How To Not Be Awkward Around People In Easy Steps

Social situations can be challenging, but with some simple techniques, you can feel more comfortable and confident in your interactions. Figuring out how to not be awkward around people doesn’t have to be complicated.

In this guide, we will explore effective strategies and proven methods for navigating these delicate social encounters, enabling you to foster a supportive and inclusive environment while ensuring everyone feels valued and respected.

Socially Awkward Meaning  

Socially awkward behavior refers to feeling uncomfortable or out of place in social situations. It often involves experiencing anxiety, struggling to initiate or maintain c

Up Next

25+ Matthew Perry Quotes: A Tribute To ‘Chandler Bing’ – The King of Sarcasm

To the one who brought Chandler Bing to life in the beloved TV show Friends. Get ready to laugh through your tears as we pay tribute to the one and only “King of Sarcasm” – with Matthew Perry quotes.

Yes, you heard that right – our beloved Chandler Bing, who could make a joke out of any awkward situation, left us way too soon at the age of 54.

Let’s take a moment to remember the man who brought laughter and snark to our screens, with some of his most iconic quotes. It’s going to be a blend of sadness and humor, just like the man himself. So grab your coffee, and let’s dive into the wit and wisdom with these Matthew Perry quotes.

Up Next

40+ Quotes About Adventure And Life To Awaken Your Wanderlust

Best Quotes About Adventure And Life To Inspire You

Someone once said, ‘Adventure is worthwhile in itself.’ And indeed, it is! Today, we’ll embark on a journey through the wisdom of some remarkable quotes about adventure and life.

Are you ready to embark on a journey through the enchanting world of quotes about adventure and travel to ignite your wanderlust? Well, adventure is like a siren’s call, beckoning us to explore the unknown, to seek out new horizons, and to embrace the thrill of the unexpected.

Inspirational Quotes About Adventure And Life

Whether you’re a seasoned