Dysfunctional Families and the Holidays

dysfunctional families and holidays

4. If You Have The Funds And Can Afford It, Shop For Someone In Need This Year.

There are many organizations that try and support those less fortunate during the holidays. Gifts for Kids, Toys for Tots, Home for Little Wanderers, and animal shelters are just a handful. Your local town or city will likely have its own organizations you can help. If you can’t afford to shop, consider volunteering.

Can you help run a holiday party, or cook a turkey for the homeless shelter, or deliver gifts or wrap them? Being a part of helping those in need during the holidays can be very uplifting and again puts your focus on someone other than you.

5. Choose A Completely Different Holiday Experience.

Depending on where you live and the weather, you could bike or hike or play golf. You could take in a movie and gorge on popcorn. You could take a day trip somewhere, or if you have the funds, a short cruise or trip away. Do something that has nothing to do with holidays but is fun for you!

Set a goal of something you want to accomplish, binge watch your favorite shows, knit that scarf you keep talking about, get a few books from the library and have a reading marathon. Make a plan to occupy yourself and entertain yourself and allow yourself to enjoy doing so.

Related: 8 Ways To Gracefully Survive A Toxic Family During The Holidays

6. If You Absolutely, Positively Must Attend The Holiday Events With Those Who Are You, Be Prepared To Deal With The Recurring Upset A Bit Differently This Year.

Practice being mindful while the fights are raging around you, step outside onto the porch to breathe deeply and enjoy the outside air, have a mantra that calms you and orients your mind away from that which upsets you and toward something positive, sing a song you like in your head every time you feel yourself getting upset.

In short, have a plan for what you can do to mitigate the upsetting reactions.

The holidays will be over before you know it; before they start, have your strategy in place to know what you will do differently this year to allow yourself the freedom to have a better experience.


Written By Beverly D. Flaxington  
Originally Appeared In Psychology Today
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Beverly D. Flaxington

Beverly D. Flaxington, MBA, is the Human Behavior Coach®. She is a three-time bestselling and Gold-award winning author, an investment industry professional, an international speaker, an accomplished consultant, Certified Hypnotherapist, personal and career coach, college professor, corporate trainer, facilitator, behavioral expert, entrepreneur, and business development expert. Beverly’s knowledge of human behavior and the most effective ways to make change happen have helped thousands of people over the years. In addition to being an expert on human behavior, she is recognized as a confidence coach and work relationship “doctor.”View Author posts