Holding space, in essence, is the ability to be fully present to another person and whatever it is they are going through. When holding space for another, it’s essential to resist the temptation to fix, heal or convert the other person, especially when at their most vulnerable.
Most of the time, all that’s really needed is warmth, an open ear, an open mind, and an open heart.
Spiritual healthy couples understand there are times when one holds space and when one is held in space. It’s about taking turns when such moments organically arise. Being held requires trust and courage. Holding space requires love and patience. The pendulum must swing both ways.
4. You enhance one another as human beings
Let’s cut to the chase. If your partner doesn’t make you a better person or at least kindle in you the aspiration to be a better person, and vice-versa, then the relationship’s days are likely numbered. There’s only so much a person can take if their light is diminished.
When in a spiritually healthy relationship, it’s like elevating to another version of yourself. You both shine brighter. You both aspire bigger. You both step each day into your greater potential. You gift one another faith in your respective dreams and the ongoing encouragement to make them a reality.
5. You feel good to be around
You know those couples that are magnetic?
Those ones that you just love hanging out with and feel energized and uplifted by? That’s a good indicator of a spiritually healthy relationship, whether they consider themselves “spiritual” or not.
Spiritual health, as we saw from the four domains, requires not only a sound relationship with self, but also with others, the environment, and the transcendent. So for a spiritually healthy couple, the relationship is about so much more than two people. They’re engaged with those around them, care deeply about the planet, and live intentionally.
Just because a couple is “spiritual”, it doesn’t make it a healthy relationship. If you’re around a so-called spiritual couple and you feel drained, confused, or just plain icky, run!
No matter where we’re at in life, spiritual health is something we can all continually aspire towards. There’s no end goal. There’s no competition. It will happen differently for each of us, and for each relationship. The beauty is in witnessing the many ways it unfolds and how we can all become a force for good in one another’s lives.
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Written by Nicole Gruel
Originally appeared in Yourtango
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