“A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It’s more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality”
Demisexuality is the cross between sexuality and asexuality.
You are not repulsed by the idea of physical love or are not disinterested in making out like asexuals nor do you engage in sex as a means of purely physical gratification.
You lie in between the spectrum wherein you do enjoy making out but under specific conditions wherein you need to feel a strong emotional bond or mental compatibility to get intimate with someone.
If you are the type of person who experiences attraction to someone only after connecting with them mentally and emotionally on a level that dives deep below the surface, you may be a demisexual.
Can you relate with this definition?
Read on to find out the 13 tell tale signs that show that you may be a Demi Sexual:
1). Friendship is a huge part of your relationship
If you are a demi sexual, then you want to connect with someone on all levels: mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. You are looking for someone with whom you can be completely naked -in the body and in mind.
You want to take your time to know someone and let the relationship grow organically. You do not rush into a relationship with someone until you have formed a solid friendship with them.
You value emotional support, open communication, comfort and trust in your relationships.
You need to feel the ease, comfort, and warmth of friendship before you start liking someone or feel sexually attracted to someone.
2). You enjoy physical love but only under specific conditions
You are not repulsed by the idea of making out but you enjoy it only under specific conditions.
Making love is enjoyable to you when you feel an emotional bond or mental compatibility with someone.
Physical love for you is the form of deeply connecting with someone. It is the expression of love and intimacy that you feel for your partner and physical touch serves as a medium to get to know and appreciate your partner better.
3). The idea of sleeping with someone is more exciting to you than the idea of making love
You love intimacy in relationships. You could spend the entire night cuddling up with your partner or stargazing or just reading books with them and not miss having being physical.
You crave emotional intimacy in relationships.
4). You have always felt different while growing up.
You’ve always felt like an outsider. While your friends were fascinated with their crushes and first kisses, these things did not interest you.
You were more interested in human behavior and personality traits and forming friendships.
5). Your attraction towards someone is not just based on looks
For you a big part of liking someone is knowing their overall personality, you do not get turned on simply by good looks and therefore dating apps like Tinder do not work for you.
You get turned out on by personality traits like wit, kindness, and intelligence and you don’t get how people can just swipe right and left on the basis of good looks and decide their potential mates.
6). You’re a sapiosexual and get high on conversations
“If your thoughts cannot touch my soul, then do not bother to reach for my flesh.” ~ Julie Moon
If you are a demisexual then you will closely relate to being sapiosexual. For you, the brain is the most important organ.
You get turned on by intelligent, seamless conversations.
You don’t care about how good looking someone is or whether they have six-pack abs; they will not appeal to you until they can’t engage in meaningful and organic conversations with you.
7). Liking someone for you is a big deal
It’s so difficult and rare for you to like someone because you look for deeper connections and intimacy and therefore when you actually like someone you know it’s a big deal.
You never take your feelings for granted and are quite expressive and affectionate once you find a like-minded partner.
Your relationship is based on a strong foundation of mutual respect, trust, and genuine connection and you do your best to nurture it.