Sapiosexual: The Definition
Sapiosexual is derived from the Latin word sapiens, which means intelligent or wise, and sexualis, which relates to the sexes. A sapiosexual, or less popularly called as sapiophile, is an individual who is attracted to or aroused by the intelligence of other people. Individuals who are sapiosexuals prefer intelligence more than any other quality in a potential partner. Although intelligence is a factor we commonly look for when searching for our right match, sapiosexuals make intelligence the top requirement. It is safe to say that they fall in love with the person’s mind. According to psychologists, the brain is the largest sex organ. For sapiosexuals, intelligence is the salient and most sexually attractive of all qualities in a person.
Chemistry plays a big role in attraction and relationships. However, personality traits also undoubtedly play a large part in attraction, apart from other factors such as physical appearance, wealth, and status (depending on what one is attracted to). Personality characteristics are among the factors that determine whether one person will be drawn to another. Most people are usually drawn towards qualities such as friendliness, charisma, thoughtfulness, intelligence, and kindness. With sapiosexuals, it is intelligence that is the greatest draw and the sexiest aspect of a potential partner or mate.
Experts say that people who are in a sapiosexual relationship have a higher probability of making it long-term because the intimacy between them goes beyond physical aspects. Connection and communication are of the greatest importance to them.
What does it mean to be a sapiosexual?
An individual who admits to being a sapiosexual will say that he or she is turned on by the brain, and gets excited or titillated by the insights of other people. It also means that the individual you are attracted to tends to be inquisitive, incisive, intellectual, and even irreverent. Sapiosexuals often crave philosophical, psychological, or political discussions as these topics turn them on.
There are also cases of purely platonic friendships that are fired up by the individuals’ sapiosexual desires and there is great intellectual synergy. Such relationships can often be observed in the workplace and may be considered another aspect of sapiosexuality—that is, the need to interact and be connected with intelligent people, and the result need not be emotional or sexual intimacy.
Intelligent Conversation Topics
Two sapiosexuals may find any intelligent interest a connecting factor. Two scientists may be sapiosexuals, and their passion and interest in science may allow them to discuss the topic in a way that brings about a very attractive conversation for them both.
Sapiosexuals naturally value intelligent conversations, and therefore common interests in intelligent topics will likely bring sapiosexuals together. Some conversation topics may include:
- Classic literature
- Sciences (physics, chemistry, biology, earth science, computer science, or environmental science)
- Health and the medical field
Examples of Sapiosexuals
There are a number of celebrities who have shown signs of being sapiosexual. Some famous people have a known history of dating top models, but have not settled down with any of them. Maybe good looks just weren’t enough for a lifetime commitment. Some of these famous people who are known for dating beautiful people in the past have ultimately married a person with high intelligence. George Clooney is an excellent example of one of these celebrities. His history is filled with models, but he ultimately chose to marry Amal Clooney, previously Amal Alamuddin, who is a human rights lawyer and activist.
Some well-known fictional characters have also shown signs of being sapiosexual. Let’s take Belle from Beauty and the Beast. The very handsome heartthrob of her village, Gaston, wanted to marry her, but she was not interested in him. Instead, Belle fell in love with the beast. As unattractive as the beast was physically, Belle loved his knowledge of books and his impressive library. The two could discuss literature together, and this intellectual attraction caused Belle to fall in love. Belle and the beast discussed novels. This intellectual connection won over their hearts. For others, topics of conversation could be biology or politics.
Can you think of any other real-life celebrities or fictional characters that might be sapiosexual?
How will you know if you’re a sapiosexual?
You’re a sapiophile if you are challenged or aroused by how another person thinks, and you are in love with the other person’s mind. Another newly minted word related to sapiosexuals is nymphobrainiac. People who are nymphobrainiac are aroused by engaging with the intellect of another person. However, this neologism sounds pathological or extreme to some people.