Are You Demisexual?

Are You Demisexual?

“Sexuality is one of the ways that we become enlightened, because it leads us to self-knowledge”.  ~ Alice Walker

Asexuality, heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, lesbianism … I’m sure you’ve heard of them all at some time or another in your life.  But the other day I stumbled across a sexual orientation I’m sure you haven’t heard much of before – the mysterious and puzzling demisexuality.  Even as I write this word it’s underlined with a red squiggly line, which shows that it hasn’t even been added to the dictionary yet.

Once I began researching this intriguing breed of sexuality I realized instantly that it was something I should write about.

Why?

Because I’ve gone through a lot of confusion surrounding my sexual identity in the past, and I’ve learnt of the importance of discovering who you are in order to feel comfortable in your own skin.

If you’re unsure about your sexuality, have a read.  You may just discover something new and surprising about yourself!

Read 13 Signs You Are A DemiSexual

Are You Demisexual?

Demisexuality: Still Waters Run Deep

Demisexuality can be located between the asexual and sexual spectrum of human sexuality.

This means that the demisexual normally does not experience any feelings of sexual attraction, unless they are first deeply and emotionally connected with someone.

The demisexual is often said to experience no primary attraction towards anyone, which means no attraction towards the immediate outer qualities of a person such as appearance, style or personality.  However, the demisexual differs from the asexual in that they experience secondary attraction, which comes as a result of first establishing a deep degree of connection.

As one demisexual put it, the demisexual is:

a person who does not experience sexual attraction based on physical characteristics, but may develop sexual attractions based on an emotional or mental connection.

Olivia Davis, another demisexual also commented that:

“Demisexuality is about desire and arousal, not just sex and who you do it with.  It’s not merely that I’m only interested in having sex with people that I love, it’s also that I feel a complete absence of desire or sexual feelings toward everyone else.  Ever.  What makes me demisexual is that absence.

The demisexual may also find that forming romantic or sexual relationships can be confusing, difficult and exasperating.  This is because they often come across as being just “friends” at first, but can later move on to feelings of intense sexual attraction.  As demisexual Olivia Davis goes on to explain:

“being demisexual amongst people … can be tricky.  It can be hard to figure out exactly what and where your differences are and how to deal with them as they arise.

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Do you identify with Demisexuality? Read Owning Your Sexuality Unapologetically


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Are You Demisexual?
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Aletheia Luna

Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a spiritual counselor and professional writer, Luna's mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance. See more of her work at lonerwolf.comView Author posts