Can your relationship last a lifetime? Of course it can. You only need to know the secrets to it.
I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together. ― Lisa Kleypas
No matter the length and time spent on your relationship, there are some simple rules that you need to follow to keep the ride of your relationship smooth and pleasurable.
These simple fundamental rules help make your relationship strong and everlasting. Every long term relationship has its bumps and the finesse of a good lover lies in navigating these effortlessly.
Building a relationship takes a lot of work and has its share of bumps and challenges. Though tough and rewarding at the same time, here are the expert tips to make your relationship last an aeon.
1. Express yourself and stand to gain:
The initial phases of a relationship seems like paradise. But the paradise is lost as soon as you hit the ground. Reality is unimaginably harsh. Handling a relationship well is like walking on the eggshells.
A lot of the times, boredom or everyday frustrations dwindles the passionate sparks between partners.
You probably need to say a dozen of the positive things to nullify a harmful statement. Be vocal about compliments and give heartfelt appreciation specifically aimed at your partner. Materialistic gifts are always not necessarily rewarding; a few intimately shared moments, an understanding glance, a touch of acceptance, a word of praise for a seemingly small favor, everything counts as an expression of your feelings towards each other.
Stop believing that he/she is granted to you. Value her/him and don’t lose a chance to remind your partner, verbally or through your actions, about how much lucky you feel for them being in your life.
You should not only know how to press your partner’s hoot buttons but also give her the chance to feel wanted and special.
2. Learn to touch each other often:
Human touch often helps in the release of endorphins for both who caress and those who get cared for. Try and hold hands, exhibit physical proximity and affection while you are walking or even watching a movie.
Revive the ways in which you expressed love in the early days of the relationship. Form a tight unit around your loved one.
After a long tiresome day of work and sweat, make each other some coffee, huddle together in a comfortable place, like the sofa, the bed or the lounge and revive the moments of the day. This not only fosters physical bond but also make you feel cared for and attended to.
Its natural to barely see each other from the opposite side of the bed after a wearisome day. A study shows that 94 percent of the couples who cuddle during the night are happy with their relationship, vs. 68 percent of couples who stretch out.(1) In contrast, the study also showed that further the couple sleeps physically from each other, the worse off their relationship is.
Everyone wants to be understood and communication is the tool to promote understanding and empathy. Non-verbal body language in the form of touch is also a crucial aspect of expressing. Cuddling is like telling your partner ” I feel you.” “I get you.”
3. Stop playing the finger pointing game at each other:
Often in a relationship, when something goes sour, we have a tendency to place the blame on the other person. It is in fact tempting to feel angry and disappointed with your partner when you are stressed about life and work.
You cannot expect to “change” your partner and cast him or her in defensive light.
The result is that neither changes and there is no one to take the responsibility for the wrong. The idea is to not chastise and seek the best in your companion. The idea is to change oneself and address one’s own flaw. This increases optimism and both feel motivated to make things work out.