In a relationship, both partners should have the space to make mistakes and should be able to forgive each other. If your partner thinks of you as perfect then they have an unrealistic version of you in their mind.
2. “Don’t know what I’d do without you in my life.”
It can feel great to know that your partner appreciates you and needs you in their life to feel fulfilled. However, a healthy individual should be independent and able to function by themselves. Otherwise they will act exceptionally needy and desperate in a relationship leading to a loss of attraction and toxicity in the relationship.
These types of people usually feel lost when they are not in a relationship and tend to move from one lover to another quickly to maintain the victim-rescuer equation in the relationship.
3. “You’re so much better than my ex.”
“The best way to remain in your relationship is to keep other people out of your relationship.” – Carlos Wallace
Although this may be an ego booster for some people, disrespecting an ex-lover is never a good sign. It only goes to show that your partner likes to compare and probably mental compares your current relationship with their previous one. It may also mean that they are not fully over their ex partner.
What is most alarming is that this comparison game hints at toxic relationship patterns which usually spills over to their future relationships. Your partner should appreciate you for who you are as a unique individual and not compare you to how good or bad their last partner was. Comparisons like these will always bring their ex between you and your lover and make your relationship weaker.
4. “You’re the reason of my happiness. I’ve never been so happy in my life.”
“If you can’t be happy and content by yourself then you shouldn’t be in a relationship.” – Evan Sutter
When you’re in love with someone, you feel a deep emotional connection with them. And so being with your partner can make you feel a lot happier that you were before. But when one partner is the only source of happiness for the other partner, then it can be a serious red flag for the relationship. Soon the healthy happy relationship will turn into a dysfunctional one.
To understand this better, make sure you identify the following early in the relationship:
- Is your partner is able to control his/her emotions?
- Do they have a high sense of self-esteem and self-worth?
- Are they able to live a happy and satisfying life independently?
- Are they happy in their personal life outside the relationship?
- Do they have any passions or interests which they pursue?
- Do they love themselves?
Identifying these will enable you to understand your partner better and if they live a fulfilling and satisfying life autonomously. If your partner gives you excess credit for their happiness, then be sure that they will give you all the blame for their failures, sadness, frustration, anger and depression as well.
5. “I want to spend every waking moment with you.”
Although it may be an adorable thought, in reality couples who spend all their time together are in an unhealthy relationship. This just shows that your partner is clingy and wants all your time to themselves. When your partner ‘needs’ to spend all of his/her time with you, it means they possessive and jealous. They have a sense of ownership over you. And in the future, such neediness can lead to abusive behavior.
It’s okay to want to spend time with your partner. But when it comes to relationships and spending time with your lover, quality matters more than quantity. If your boyfriend or girlfriend feels threatened by you needing space and spending time with your family & friends or if you are focusing on your career, then you need to pay closer attention. If they demand more time from you, then it is surely a relationship red flag. However, make sure you are not neglecting your partner in the first place.