Relationships & Self-Love: Being in a relationship, especially a happy one, can feel amazing. And this is where you can start avoiding yourself by focusing more on the relationship. However, for your relationship to be healthy, you need to love yourself as much as you love your partner. Strong self-esteem can lead to a strong relationship. But how can you love yourself while in a relationship?
“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” – Barbara De Angelis
Sometimes we may forget to love ourselves when we’re in a committed relationship. It can be seductive to think that when we met our other half, we can stop working on ourselves while the opposite is true.
The quality of relationships correlates with the relationship you have with yourself.
When we’re in a relationship, we still need to maintain a loving relationship with ourselves because this is the stepping stone to an equal partnership.
The line between self-love and dependency can be sometimes blurred. When we’re too close to someone, we may not recognize that we act disrespectfully toward ourselves. Thus I share with you 9 signs that tell you that you maintain the healthy balance between you and your partner.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Gautama Buddha
9 Self-Love Rules In A Healthy Relationship
1. Be there for yourself.
You know how much you love yourself when you’re there for yourself. No matter what. You support your dreams, stay focused on your priorities, and you also forgive yourself for making the wrong decision.
After all, life is but a lesson. If your other half doesn’t believe in your dreams (and you want to stay with them despite this), then it doesn’t throw you off the track.
You know that life is short and that you’re on a mission to become the best version of yourself.
Thus no one can stop you. You give yourself all the support and time you possibly need to pursue your dreams.
2. Stay balanced.
Finding inner balance is one of the most liberating things in life. It comes with age or a healthy detachment from life situations.
Staying balanced means that you don’t start drifting in your life based on what your partner wants.
You can be in the middle of an argument, yet you recognize that it’s just a temporary situation and that you both might have blinders on. You stay calm and don’t let the quarrel settle in your heart.
“Self-worth comes from one thing – thinking that you are worthy.” – Wayne Dyer
3. You’re open-minded and flexible.
When you love yourself, you’re always on a track of self-development and inner growth. Sometimes this means leaving someone who is continually hurting you or you outgrow them. You know that you don’t need to stay in a relationship out of obligation or fear.
Hence you don’t put blinders on to support what you want to see, but you have eyes wide open and see through illusions.
4. You steadily grow into your potential.
A person who loves themselves knows that they were born to make amazing things happen.
A fulfilling life can’t be found on a surface.
Thus you’re committed to knowing your true self, and as a result of it, you grow into your potential. It doesn’t matter whether your partner is on the same page as you because you believe in a deeper meaning of life and thus nothing can stop you.
“Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it.” Thaddeus Golas
5. You’re whole.
Since you’re 100%, you don’t need anyone to fulfill you. Your partner is just a cherry on the top, but you don’t need them. Although you love to share your life and yourself with them, you know that you feel great by yourself too.
Thus you enjoy moments when you’re recharging the batteries or going on the trips alone. Just as it’s essential to have common hobbies, you realize that it’s also vital to devote some time to your craft.