Here’s why staying single and waiting for the right person makes you stronger and not lonelier.
Man is a social animal.
And two is a company.
These are roughly what plagues every respectable, career oriented, self-sufficient and satisfied, happily single person of the 21st-century society in their Golden Age of 25 (and above).
You can hear it in every wedding, engagement ceremony and any type of family meeting and can see it in almost everybody’s eyes: the watchman, your maid, your mom’s friends and your dad’s friends’ wives. You are aware and that is why you hate family events and having a list of ‘101 Strategies To Escape Nosy Elders At Almost Any Function.’
Everyone is worried you are going to die single — except you, of course. Nobody understands that you might just be ‘waiting for the one’.
All they understand is that you either are a snobbish millennial who refuses to heed their age old knowledge, or you are immensely fussy and non-amiable and all your so-presumed exes have learnt it and left you. Singleton is suddenly a synonym of loneliness, trust issues, attitude issues, maturity issues and everything along and about it.
Well, it is not.
Being single has been called a lot of things that honestly, it is not.
Being single is most importantly, a choice.
It is a choice to not rush into things that people claim are wonderful, a choice to wait for it to happen to you, a choice of not ending up with someone you don’t like or approve of.
Being single is an extension of the Right to Freedom if you ask me. Single is a lot of things. It is a way of life.
So, let us take this moment to ponder upon all that being single really gives you:
1) Ability to recognize people.
Being single allows us to look at other people’s relationships with an open mind. We can observe and understand our friends’ relationships like only an unbiased outsider understands it.
Which, in other words, means that we also have some experience in understanding people. We can tell when our friend is being cheated upon or when they are being mean to their partners.
More than that, I always find that single people can call out bullshit much more easily than people who get into relationships quite early in their life. (Of course, some people are just born thick and hopeless)
When someone approaches you, your judgement is never clouded with desperation to get into a relationship or the bitterness over the previous one. Plus, you have the added bonus of your friends’ experience and the experience attained from movies or books.
2) Being content with your own self.
Only you know that peace that comes with living by yourself. Being single and waiting for the One, allows you to accept what you expect out of a relationship and it gives you the maturity to call quits on a relationship that you decided to try but wasn’t your type.
You are able enough to choose to stay on your own rather than the wrong One — able enough because you know you are not a bad company to yourself. You can come up with hundreds of things you can do by yourself and not get bored because waiting was a calculated choice and it never even occurs to you to second guess it.
3) Being Independent
You knew this was coming. Everyone knows the perks of being single and yet no one stays back to condemn it. It is almost like they miss it and they don’t want us to have it either. Among many perks, the most prominent one is independence.
Being single teaches you to depend on yourself. You are the one who has to pay the bills, change the bulb, decide the pizza topping and make the house rules.
Basically, pay for your own fries as well as your house. The perfect knowledge of the current rates of grocery as well as land is at your fingertips. You are a One Human Army and hence, self-sufficient and independent too.
As I see it, being single is a lot of responsibility towards oneself. Being single is commendable and respectable. Being single is a pride. Anyone who cannot see it or refuses to see it is probably just fooling themselves.
Every choice has its consequences. And in today’s society with social media mirroring our life out to the world to observe and comment upon, it is no wonder that they do. It would be in everybody’s welfare if you allowed people in their opinion, ignored it for your own sake and just carry on with whatever you had been doing.
After all, haters gonna hate, but if you are happy with yourself, does it really matter what the public opinion is about how you wish to go about waiting for the One?
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