2. You may never forget, and you may feel unable to forgive, but you need to find a way to let it go.
Write the pain down on paper and burn it or crumple it into little pieces and let it go in the wind. Listen to music, paint a picture, hit the gym. Write about it — describe the painful details. However you want to release it, just get it all out of your head and put that energy somewhere else.
3. Focus on the people who ARE there for you.
The people who love and support you. Surround yourself with those people. The people who show up for you, the people who lend an ear when you need to vent, the people who have your back no matter what. Those people can help make that heartache subside and can bring a smile to your face.
4. Get some distance, take some space.
It may be best to not contact your parent for a while to give yourself time to clear your head. Speaking too soon could result in hateful words filled with anger that you may regret later. Create boundaries for yourself and stick to them. Your parent hurt you, you deserve all the space you need to move on from that.
5. Don’t let it take over.
Life is short, there are so many ways to find happiness, so many places to travel, and so many things you haven’t done yet! Focus on all of that and try your best to not get dragged down by their actions.
Let them be — karma will get to them if warranted, and if it does, you’ll be too busy enjoying life to notice. They already hurt you, don’t let them cause further damage by allowing it to take over any more of your happiness.
6. Practice acceptance.
You will never be able to change your parent or their behavior. They have to want to change.
Accepting the things you cannot change is one of the best things you can strive for in this situation. That acceptance will free you from their restraints. It’ll free you from the burden and weight they put on your shoulders. At the end of the day, it is best to focus on the things you can control and let go of the things you cannot.
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7. Move on without them.
Chances are, you’ve done just fine without them anyway. Oftentimes, unbeknownst to you, they’re actually depleting your strength and making you weaker with all of their problems. You don’t need them anymore; you’re stronger without them, and you deserve better.
A parent or not, having someone toxic in your life can do some serious damage to your mental health. You should always cut ties with toxic individuals, no matter how difficult it may be at first. It’ll be worth it in the end, and it’ll make more room for the nontoxic people in your life.
8. Be patient with yourself.
A parent is supposed to be our go-to human, our source of comfort and advice. When that turns on you, it can be hard to handle.
Make sure you give yourself time to heal. It probably won’t go away overnight. Go easy on yourself. Grieve, do something that brings you joy, and let yourself be sad for a little while. And whenever you’re ready, pick up the pieces and move forward. Take the time to focus on yourself. Continue down your path of life, and leave the pain they caused you in the rearview.
Written By Nikki Rutledge Originally Appeared In Thought Catalog