Other People Are Your Mirrors: 5 Things They Teach You

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Other People Your Mirrors Things Teach You

Other people are your mirrors. They reflect the parts of you, you’re unwilling to see and you can use this to help your inner growth. Other people are your mirrors, and they reflect your unconscious and subconscious mind, your patterns, fears, or the dreams you havenโ€™t activated yet.

Everyone in your life reflects some aspects of you. Be it an irritated postman, loving spouse, or an envious friend. This doesnโ€™t mean that other people shouldnโ€™t take responsibility for themselves or blame something on one another.

The fact that other people are your mirrors is a simple indicator of where youโ€™re on your journey and what else you can create beyond what you had been taught you should want in life. 

Other people reflect the parts of you that you arenโ€™t willing to see. 

When we want to change someone, weโ€™re trying to change our reflection, which we donโ€™t like. Anyone who has ever tried to change someone else knows that it ends up as a disaster. Others donโ€™t want to change when theyโ€™re not ready yet, and weโ€™re wasting our energy.

Itโ€™s like looking into the mirror and trying to explain to the mirror that you donโ€™t like what you see. It doesnโ€™t simply work, and you miss the valuable lesson. Instead of wasting our time, we can accept what others mirror back to us. Learn to recognize yourself in other people.

Meeting the same kind of partners over again

Romantic relationships serve as the best mirrors. When your relationships donโ€™t go as planned, then itโ€™s because some parts of you subconsciously sabotage it.

Youโ€™re the common denominator of all of your relationships.

Therefore going from one relationship into another without understanding why you unconsciously sabotage it or attract similar partners doesnโ€™t help. It leads to the same results.

When Toni came for the first coaching session, she has started telling me about her last couple of relationships that all ended with the man leaving her. Naturally, she felt devastated, and she felt too old to meet someone she would want to spend the life with.

After a closer look, we recognize the common threads. The men were disrespectful to her and didnโ€™t take her seriously. This would always make her upset, and she would start to argue on a daily basis. Ultimately, this made them leave and then soon after Toni would meet someone else, only to experience similar heartbreak later.

After doing some energy work together, Toni could see that she wasnโ€™t respecting herself. She used to disregard her dreams and ideas because she didnโ€™t believe that they could happen. Because she lacked the belief, she unconsciously predetermined them to fail. When she saw this pattern clearly, she made a conscious choice to stop it right there.

Now she owns her coffee-shop by the coast as she has always wanted. And next to her is the man who fully supports her and loves her.

Just as Toni did, you can also recognize what others mirror back to you. Specifically, they reflect us what we donโ€™t want to accept about ourselves.

Related: Every Person We Meet In Our Lives Is A Mirror. Hereโ€™s What They Teach Us.

Learn to read what others reflect you.

Other People Are Your Mirrors: 5 Things They Teach You

1. People get upset with you.

If people often get upset with you, examine whether youโ€™re unconsciously mad at the world or yourself. If you encounter angry and irritated people, they mirror your anger. You might not recognize that youโ€™re angry, but others pick up our energy regardless.

2. Others donโ€™t believe in your dreams.

If this is your case, then ask yourself whether YOU believe in your dreams. Are you 100% committed to them?

How do you speak about what you want โ€“ is there a sense of lack of trust?

Others only reflect your inner doubts. Especially when you choose to change and follow what you love. It has happened to most of us that the closest people who were โ€œsupposedโ€ to support us were questioning if what we do is the right thing.

Donโ€™t take it as a sign that what you do is wrong. Instead, shift your perception to see that you need to support your dreams more.

3. People tell you what you should do.

Sometimes itโ€™s normal that others tell you what you need to do โ€“ like in work. But if your partner, family, or friends tell you way too often what you should do, then it reflects a fear of making your decisions. Others can feel whether we trust our opinions. If you donโ€™t believe in your choice, then some people will take and advantage of it.

Related: 20 Things I Wish I Could Say To The Sad Eyed Girl I Used To Be

4. Others lie to you.

If you meet people who lie to you, then the question to ask would be whether you lie to yourself (and others)? It might be more difficult, to be honest with yourself. Especially when you do something that you wish to take back. Yet in each moment being frank with yourself is the best thing you can do. It brings self-acceptance, and it shows you who you truly are.

5. Others are doing what you want to do.

When you know people, who take the dance class, language course, or job that youโ€™ve wanted itโ€™s a clear wake-up call for you.

It means that you can do it yourself, but for some reason, you donโ€™t. Others are showing you that it can be done and they also motivate you to take the first step.

Other people are your mirrors

You can take anyone and look at what they reflect about you. Some reflections show what we need to heal while others are meant to inspire us to step up. Once you shift your perception about your relationships, you can have more fun.

Instead of blaming someone, you can think; oh, thatโ€™s interesting information. Thank you, Iโ€™ll support myself more.

This is one of the purposes of relationships. Other people are our gifts. Even when we donโ€™t like them. Everyone has some message for you.

Sylvia


Written by Sylvia Salow
Originally appeared on Sylvia Salow.com
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