“People empty me. I have to get away to refill.” – Charles Bukowski
When you see someone sipping their coffee alone in a café or someone pondering over their life in the bar with his drink or someone travelling alone, you judge them as loners or if you’re the one who does these things then you’re judged for being a loner and not having friends to do these things with.
Solitude is not only underrated but it is still considered as a stigma.
As if doing things alone is a sign of lowliness and I don’t understand why!?
It’s totally okay to love solitude, it’s okay to like doing things on your own.
When the society sees you doing things on your own and spending time alone they mistake you for being lonely and depressed and they think you need help.
It is understandable, over the centuries we humans have learned to be there together, sharing lives and this has been established as a norm. when one sees you standing out of the box then they naturally question why you do what you do.
Spending time alone doesn’t drain you but it recharges you.
Yes, you need some ‘me time’ to analyze what’s going in your life and ponder over the decisions you make, formulate some changes and lay the steps ahead. These things take you closer to being self-sufficient and believe me this is the best gift you can give to yourself. No one deserves your time more than you do.