What A Man Thinks About When He Really Likes You: 10 Secret Thoughts

Man Thinks He Likes You

Do you ever wonder if he thinks about you when you’re not around? Rom-Coms, magazines, and age-old cultural assumptions have led to generations of women wondering what a man thinks when they like a woman. Men can be as complicated as women and can often send you mixed signals when it comes to dating. If you’re wondering what a man thinks about you and if he really likes you, then here are a few things you should know about.

As a love and relationship author, I spend a LOT of time thinking about what men are thinking (and why they do all sorts of confusing things) when they are in relationships.

One of the most common questions I get from my readers is, “What are the signs that a man likes you?” and “What is a man thinking when he is falling for me?”

In fact, for a man to fall for you, he MUST think about you when you aren’t around. Men feel attraction and fall in love with your absence.

Here’s a quick journey into what a man thinks about when he likes you.

1. “Tell me more.”

When a man really likes you, he will try to get to know who you are in a deeper way.

You won’t feel like he’s ignoring you, talking over you, or glossing over what you have to say. He will listen, remember details, and ask you about things going on in your life. Getting to know you better will take priority for him.

Related: 11 Ways To Tell If A Guy Likes You (Even If He’s Not Saying So Out Loud)

2. “Do you have plans for the weekend?”

A guy who likes you will make sure that he gets as much time with you as he can. He will be motivated to schedule things in advance so that he doesn’t miss out on any opportunity he can to see you.

He won’t contact you last minute, in the middle of the night, or when he knows you aren’t available because he could miss out.

3. “What’s your family like?”

When a man starts falling for you, he will want to know about your tribe. What kind of family you grew up in, whether or not you are religious and whether you had a good childhood will all be of interest to him.

He will also try to make a good impression with your friends and family. He will introduce you to his friends and think about bringing you home to meet his Mom. How you fit into the bigger picture will be important to him — especially if he is family-minded.

He will also sit patiently through those embarrassing stories from when you were a kid.

4. “What makes you really happy?”

Men who like you wonder how they can contribute to your happiness. Even if he doesn’t ask you directly, he will pay close attention to what excites you — then he will try to do more of that. He will try to do things that he knows you like.

When he’s falling for you, lighting you up makes HIS day.

Related: 8 Unmistakable Body Language Signs He’s Interested In You

5. “Does she add to my life?”

A man who is looking for a life partner will notice whether you add to his life. Men are keenly aware that the women they choose for the long term will affect everything from where they live to their children.

When he really likes you, he’ll try to make sure that you’re a safe person to share everything with.

“Men get to be a mixture of the charming mannerisms of the women they have known.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

6. “Does she respect me?”

It’s not that well-known, but one BIG secret about men is that your respect is more powerful than your love. If he feels like you aren’t solidly in his corner, he will not commit to you long-term.

A man can’t fall for you if you don’t treat him with respect. This includes trusting him to solve his own problems and respecting the way that he manages his life. He made it this far without you, so if you emasculate him now or treat him like you’re the only thing holding him together, he will eventually resent you.

7. “Is she a happy person?”

Emotionally stable, healthy men are drawn to happy women like moths to a flame. The fact that you’re already happy without him just makes him want to make you even happier.

Your personal happiness with or without him is a strong signal that he can be himself and you will still happy. That’s a win-win for both of you.

If you drag him down with negativity, it’s unlikely that he’ll stick around. Propping up a woman emotionally is really wearing for men. It will damage your relationship over time if you’re constantly venting negative emotions. Plenty of men report that the reason they finally dumped a woman was that she was constantly unhappy.

When you’re happy on your own and able to self-soothe, he won’t be as worried that you’ll bring him down during tough times.

What a man thinks when he really likes you
What a man thinks when he really likes you

8. “I really like you.”

Capital L — as in LOVE — might be too loaded of a term for him right now — so he might go with simply telling you out loud that he likes you. When he cares about you, he will want you to know about it so that you don’t get the wrong idea.

Since he’s serious about you, he will want you to know.

Related: 8 Strong Signs That He Definitely Likes You

9. “I want you all to myself.”

Every guy knows deep down that if he doesn’t get you to be exclusive with him, another guy could. Trying to monopolize your time (within reason) and bringing up the “let’s be exclusive” talk and all things he thinks about when he likes you.

“A real man only lies to his woman when he’s surprising her.” – Mitch Cuento

10. “I hope she doesn’t go too fast.”

When a guy really likes you and sees long-term potential with you, he will actually want you to go slowly when it comes to the bedroom. He will put you on a little bit of a pedestal. He wants to feel like you don’t have sex with every man who crosses your path.

It’s old-fashioned, but when a man really likes you, he tries to make sure you don’t feel pressured to have sex too soon since that could upset you and ruin things. Your feelings will take the highest priority.

Written by Elizabeth Stone
Originally appeared in Attract The One
man thinks
What A Man Thinks About When He Really Likes You: 10 Secret Thoughts
Man Thinks He Likes You pin

— About the Author —

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Up Next

5 Signs Of Dating Burnout: Hitting The Wall in Love?

Signs Of Dating Burnout: Hitting The Wall in Love?

Ever felt like you’ve hit a brick wall in your love life? That’s dating burnout for you, and it’s more common than you think. It’s that overwhelming feeling when the search for “The One” starts to feel more like a chore than a journey of the heart. Let’s dive into the five telltale signs that you might be experiencing this modern love dilemma.


Burnout is usually characterized by a feeling that no matter what one does, nothing will improve, often leading to feelings of apathy.

One study found that 78 percent of adults aged 18-54 have experienced online dating burnout.

Up Next

Dating With Low Self Esteem? 6 Tips For Navigating The Dating Scene with Confidence

Dating With Low Self Esteem? Tips For Being More Confident

Ah, the exciting universe of dating! Dating in the modern world can feel like a rollercoaster filled with thrilling emotions and fluttering hearts. But what do you do when you suffer from low self esteem? What does it look like, dating with low self esteem?

Dating with low self esteem can feel as difficult as trying to solve a Rubik’s cube with one hand tied behind your back. Interactions may be marred by negative self-perceptions which can make you doubt your worth and desirability. However, don’t let that scare you, because low self-esteem does not necessarily mean doom.

In this article, we are going to t

Up Next

Qixi Festival: The Intriguing Origins And Traditions Of Chinese Valentine’s Day 

Qixi Festival: Traditions of Chinese Valentine's Day

Love stories have always gripped our hearts, going beyond cultures and decades. In China, there is a special celebration of romance and love known as Qixi Festival- the Chinese Valentine’s Day.

This magical event has a unique place in the hearts of the Chinese people and can be traced back to thousands of years. So let us dive into the story behind Chinese Valentine’s Day and learn more about the Chinese Qixi festival.

Qixi Festival: The Chinese Valentine’s Day

Qixi (Qīxījié) Festival, also known as Chinese Valentine’s Day, is an ancient event celebrated in China on July 7 of every year, as per the lunar calendar. The occasion draws heavily from Chinese mythologies

Up Next

Who’s The Most Playful In Relationships? 3 Zodiac Signs With Golden Retriever Energy

Zodiac Signs With Golden Retriever Energy: Fun Signs

Are there any zodiac signs that have golden retriever energy? You know, the ones who are so outgoing, adventurous and silly. Fire signs are typically the most fun and playful, but some air signs also cut deep because of how naturally caring they are.

When it comes to a golden retriever, you think of them as the type to always wanna jump in a pool or chase after a ball. They’re like the cartoon characters of dogs with their “just happy to be here” personalities and lots of big energy.

In the human world, 3 zodiacs match that energy!

If you’re feeling down, they’ll immediately come over and hang out next to you while giving you those big shiny eyes.

Up Next

If 16 Famous Writers Wrote Valentine’s Day Cards For You

If These Famous Writers Wrote Valentine's Day Cards

Why settle for less when Kim Namjoon said, “It’s a long way from I to U.F–, JKLMN-O-PQRST. I crossed all the letters and I reached you.” Expression of love is perhaps the greatest asset of poetry and what better time to make dad jokes about it than Valentine’s Day!

Cheese is best served with food. However, Valentine’s Day is one exception. Because it’s the one day we go all out to celebrate the love we feel, the love we have, or don’t. Now imagine if your favorite authors took part in this

Up Next

Is He Into You Or Just Being Friendly? 20 Signs He Is Micro Flirting

Clear Signs He Is Micro Flirting With You

Ever ask yourself if that friend of yours is dropping subtle hints or just being their usual friendly self? We’re about to go over some signs he is micro flirting – the little gestures that could be signaling something more.

On TikTok, Gen-Z have shared some trends to spot micro-flirting, for instance, You have a co-worker who’s always quiet around everyone except for you. When it’s just the two of you they can’t stop being chatty, and they use micro-gestures like touching their neck or biting their lip when you’re talking.

Up Next

Love In Reverse: How Contra-Dating Can Rewrite Your Love Story

How Contra Dating Can Help You Find Love: Examples

When it comes to love, many of us have a pattern. We like what’s similar to us—interests, appearances. But what if there was another way? As the word ‘contradict’ suggests, ‘Contra dating’ is a departure from traditional relationship ideals, which could be just what we need to find true love!

‘Contra dating,’ was coined by the creative minds at a dating site called “Plenty of Fish”. It has the potential to reinvent how we look for true love. Because plain old dating is boring anyway.

Explore Contra Dating Meaning And Find Out If You Should Be Trying It.