Want to know if a guy likes you? Stop paying attention to what he says and focus on his body language. Why? Men are not as verbal as women and they probably won’t say it right away. He may be insecure, shy or just afraid to get rejected by someone as pretty as you. Although he may hold back his words, he will not be able to control his body language & reflexes when he likes you.
“Emotion looks the same whether you’re a suburban housewife or a suicide bomber. The truth is written on our faces.”
– Cal Lightman, “Lie To Me”
Men: aren’t they a handful?
If you’re not stressing out over their will-he-or-won’t-he-commit antics, they’re giving you mixed signs about how they feel.
It can be frustrating trying to decode what a man says because unlike women, he’s not as emotionally expressive. So, he may be feeling one way, but his words suggest otherwise.
But it’s not that he’s trying to mislead you on purpose. The problem is that most guys grew up not learning how to communicate their feelings.
So that leaves a lot of room for misunderstandings and unspoken sentiments.
Sometimes, even he doesn’t know what he’s feeling at the moment and has a hard time sorting it out.
That makes it even more challenging for a guy to give you the real deal about where you stand with him.
On top of that, your guy might be particularly shy or terrified at the thought of getting turned down (something common among men).
Missed signs, Missed opportunities
With so much getting in the way, it’s easy for you to misread his body language and take it for romantic interest – which of course, will put a huge, AWKWARD wedge between you two.
Or maybe the signs he likes you were flashing right in front of you but went over your head.
And when you finally realized it after the fact, it was too late and the proverbial ship had already sailed.
If either of those things has happened to you, don’t fret. Plenty of women have had their dreamboat get away from them on account of this pesky problem.
But there is a way to read your guy like a book so you when he’s giving you the green light…
…or if you should take a detour and move on.
While his words can be ambiguous, his BODY is another story. Everything he does sends a clear message of how he’s REALLY feeling.
Dr. David Givens, Ph.D., author of “Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship”, says that humans give off these non-verbal cues during the courtship phase as a way of “feeling out” a potential mate.
There’s a certain rhythm to it, much like how animals engage in mating rituals.
In other words, it’s in our DNA, and humans have been playing this game for as long as we’ve been on this planet.
And if you want to win big time, the trick is to learn the crucial body language signs that tell you your guy is, in fact, feeling it.
If you can identify the signals as he gives them off, you’ll know exactly how to plan your next move.
Best of all, these signs are just as legit whether you’ve known him for some time, like a colleague or mutual friend…
…or that hottie who walked into the coffee shop five minutes ago.
With that, let’s get into 8 body language signs he’s interested in you.
Body Language Sign #1 – What do his eyes tell you?
Before anything else, he’s going to scope the scene. So your guy will try and get a feel of things by making eye contact.
If he’s trying to make a visual connection, that’s him reaching out and checking if he can move on to the next step.
He’ll usually start with a tentative glance, connect with you, then look somewhere else.
And when he looks at you again, it’s game on!
Personally, I’m not a fan of the whole check-his-pupils-if-they’re-dilated business. It’s not like you can walk up and start observing him like a lab rat.
Anyway, the important thing is that he’s got that look that says he wants to reach out and touch you – which brings us to the next body language sign he’s interested in you…