They say that body language accounts for more in human communication than speech. But how does this translate over to the language of love?
Body language is an unspoken element of communication that we subconsciously use to reveal our true emotions.
The most interesting aspect of body language is it cannot be faked. It is mostly involuntary and cannot be modified to our will.
A research was conducted by Albert Mehrabian in 1971, the results of which are still often quoted today. Mehrabian came to the following conclusions from his research:
- Words (What is verbally expressed)
- Tone of voice (How we say the words)
- Body Language (facial expressions, body posture, gestures, eye movement, touch and the use of space)
All three of these elements can be used to communicate an information to the other person. Often, the tone of voice and body language are combined to become the most powerful form of communication. However, body language – which forms a large part of non-verbal communication – is often used on its own, and is thought to be one of the most ‘telling’ modes of communication.
Once a person is able to read these ‘signs’, they can use it to their full advantage. For example, understanding these signs can help us completely comprehend what the other person is trying to convey through their actions. In turn, it enhances our awareness of other people’s thoughts and emotions. Deciphering body language has a lot to do with our instinctual abilities.
But how does these body languages translate over to the language of love?
When we are attracted to someone, our bodies response to the attraction even before our mind can figure out what is happening to us.
Knowing if your date is attracted to you is important to determine if or not you are wasting your time. Sometimes someone might be sweet to you for he/she does not want to dishearten you by turning you down. But their body language will surely tell you that they are not interested in a romantic liaison.
If a person’s body language says “not interested” or “not available”, you should believe it, no matter what he/she verbally expresses. There’s a direct line of communication between the brain and the body that lies outside our conscious awareness. Once sparks are flying between two people, their bodies will generally response to it in a positive way by communicating with some signs.
How to know if he/she is genuinely into you and not just playing around?
Here are the 12 credible body languages that show someone is attracted to you:
1. Open Posture
Whether it is man or woman, body language that is “open” means attraction. This can be uncrossed arms, nothing blocking the way like a bag or purse, a relaxed face and an easy stance. This means that the person feels relaxed enough with you.
Sometime when we are not comfortable with someone, our bodies sense it and automatically reacts to stop the negative flow of energy from the other person. What we do then is engage in behaviours that block our body like we might cross our arms, put some object between the other person’s body and our body or simply look for escape.
If a man stands, his feet firmly planted onto the ground, his body stretching vertically to show his full height, he is open. On the other hand if a woman relaxes back into her chair while sitting, means she trusts you.
2. Leaning in and head tilting
Both leaning in and head tilting are known to release pheromones. These are chemical substances that get released by the body altering social behaviour. The pheromones establish non-verbal connection with the other person. These can actually pave the way for a deeper connection between two people.
Leaning in and head tilting while you are verbally communicating to him/her also shows that the other person is paying deep attention to what you are saying. He/she might really be interested in getting to know you beyond the surface.
3. Feet point towards
If your feet points towards a person, there’s a high likelihood you feel at ease with them. Similarly, if your feet shows an “exit posture”, or have a natural tendency of moving away, check your feelings for the person. May be, you do not feel safe, comfortable or understood with the person.
An “exit” orientation is a sign you’re engaging with the person out of specific context rather than authentic interest. Notice to which side the feet of the other person points. If it consistently points to you, even in a group setting, you are undoubtedly under his/her radder.