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6 Things Men Look For In a Woman

6 Things Men Look For In a Woman

What is it that males look for in a girl? Girls have been searching for the answer to this conundrum for decades, yet it still seems to be an unanswered and complicated question .

Of course, every guy is different, and your man especially. However, as a rule, while they all have different desires and needs, if you can provide him the following, he will be pretty damn charmed with you.


1: Attraction

It goes without saying, this is a given, but many girls seem to neglect it anyway. But guys ,like women need to feel chemistry and some sort of attraction to the person they are dating.

They need to have not only physical attraction but also mental stimulation and some sort of connection that draws them to pursue you .


2: A Challenge

Maybe the most important thing in any relationship is the excitement factor. It’s true for you too, isn’t it? You want your guy to be fun and entertaining.

You want enjoy the banter and the challenge and know that he is pursuing you . You require him to show you a fun time, and be original now and again, right? Sure you do. It’s the same for guys .

They like to know that the woman they are dating is also offering a challenge . It brings excitement , growth and wonder .


3: Affirmation

Men like to feel good, just like women do. This isn’t so much abut stroking his ego , but rather affirming who he is as a man.

People always tend to respond better to praise than criticism . Men want to know that who they are is enough. They want to be affirmed because it helps them feel that they have a role in the relationship.


4: Nurturing

Let’s face it, every man has an inner child, and they love to be mothered from time to time. And one of the perfect ways to do so is to have acts of service that demonstrate nurturing .

Whether it’s cooking food ( always an easy way to his heart) or taking care of him when he is sick and making a fuss , it signifies to him that you care and are a woman who is able to nurture.


5: Effort

Men are visual . Putting in effort with your appearance is a sure way to keep him interested. This isn’t about feeding his carnal mind , but rather showing respect to both yourself and him.

One of the quickest ways to turn off your man is to stop trying. Slap on some cosmetics, go shopping once in a while and buy something sexy to wear, and then turn on the heat just for him – he loves it!


6: Some Chase!

Men being men, they also need their free time. This means, letting him do what he wants by himself (and trusting him!).

He needs a woman who is happy to let him go to a football game now and again with his buddies, go out jogging or whatever it is that he does.

The majority of blokes cannot face being with their partners all the time, so cut him some slack – he’ll love you for it. Don’t be so available and keep pursuing your purpose outside of him and the relationship.

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Written by Renee Slansky

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6 Things Men Look For In a Woman

Renee Slansky

Renee Slansky is an Australian TV presenter, writer, professional blogger and dating and relationship coach, whose purpose and heart for women compelled her to educate people on how to find, build and cultivate healthy and fulfilling relationships. Her own blog is now the number 1 dating and relationship blog in Australia. Renee contributes advice regularly to some of the biggest online dating sites and publications globally including The Huffington Post, E Harmony, Plenty of Fish, Your Tango, MamaMia, The Good Men Project, The Love Destination and Yahoo 7. As a professional coach, Renee has built online programmes for women and mentors both men and women around the world. She is often called to comment as an expert for on the radio and Channel 7's The Morning Show and Sunrise and speaks at events. Her mission to educate a generation, change the dating culture and lower the divorce rate.View Author posts