“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” ~Helen Keller~
A broken heart holds onto everything that once made it whole – it seldom forgets. The emotional and intimate connection between soulmates is a precious bond of human love that makes letting go extremely challenging.
This love, depending on both sides, can be nurtured, respected, and prized, or it can be trampled on, abandoned, and even destroyed. Being human allows us to create a bond deeply with another human being and when that bond is between “true” soulmates, divine complements, it is meant to last for eternity.
This doesn’t happen every day. And because divine complements are connected at three crucial levels, the emotional, at the soul, and the spirit, letting go of a soulmate when the relationship is over can be extremely challenging. So much so that many remain in a ruined relationship far too long or emotionally attached years and years after the split.
Letting Go of Emotional Bonds
After the breakup, the strong lingering emotional bonds can cause a person to brood for the love that was lost, clinging onto the good memories even when the bad memories were way more than the good. Prolonged emotional attachment is usually the result of over-dependence on the relationship as the primary and main source of love. The hollow feeling of loneliness and unbearable loss take control over one’s thoughts and revisiting the memories overwhelms them with grief. Some may never be able to let go entirely and can even sink into a dark and lonely depression, isolating themselves from others. They find it utterly unimaginable that they could ever be happy with someone else. Even at the point when all reason and logic lets them know it’s over and for the most part have moved on, their subconscious mind can hold on to the painful emotional residue for years on end. Embedded grief may resurface years after the initial breakup and especially if triggered by another loss.
Dreams of reconciliation happen very often amongst those separated from their soulmates. In their dream, the one with the broken heart may be joined by their estranged mate in green fields, places they’ve been to, or in a number of recreated scenes from their relationship for a reunion of sorts. These dreams seem to reconcile and numb the sense of loss, separation, and abandonment they constantly feel, filling them once again, if only temporarily, with a sense of closure and love. Although most dreams such as these merely represent an unconscious desire, having little basis in reality, they satisfy and fuel the flame of the need to keep the love alive.
Letting go of the emotional bonds requires a lot of self-love and patience.
For most people, letting go is much like accepting death. One must resolve to come to terms with their soulmate’s absence and loosen their grasp to set them free with love and forgiveness. Undoubtedly, the heart needs to grieve and will gradually mend with some time, support, and healing medicine. Wearing a rose quartz pendant can soothe the aching heart and complete and genuine forgiveness can set the heart free to love again.
The Psychic Bonds of the Soul
The soul’s psychic bonds can also bring many difficulties after the separation. Psychic bonds can persist and are experienced as anything from zoning out from time to time to share a psychic space that feels congested and overrun with unwanted emotions most of the time. It’s quite common for soulmates to sense when the other is in danger or has suffered a loss and even to start tearing up suddenly with unwanted emotions. Sometimes the information appears in a dream. For nights on end, a soulmate visits trying to communicate their desire for reconciliation or merely to express their continued love. One woman explained that her soulmate’s attempts to re-establish the relationship through the dreamscape were absolutely relentless. In her last dream, he had asked her to call him.