What to do if you’re in love with a girl who is used to being on her own?
Are you in love with a girl who acts awkward when not able to decide anything? Does she like to do whatever she wants without validation or asking your opinion? Gets offended when you refuse her demand for personal space? Does she reply “I can do it,” whenever you want to help her with something? Then you are in love with a girl who is used to being on her own.
The girl who is used to being on her own enjoys solitude
Her acuity for solitude and enjoying things herself limits her perspective. As a result, she may lack clarity over what she is looking for in love and the kind of partner she wants. Dating may be difficult for her because she can’t open up herself.
If you’re in love with such a girl, remember that being on her own doesn’t translate to having an attitude, being loner, or egoistic. Sure, you may not get enough time to spend time with her but you’ll love to hear her when she is in a good mood and willing to speak her heart out. You never know she may help you fall in love with yourself before you are head over heels in love with her.
So, if you are in love with a girl who is used to being on her own, be ready to understand and accept her lifestyle and respect it instead of complaining and fidgeting.
Watch this video to know about the psychology of solitude:
The girl who is used to being on her own enjoys self-dependence
She is fiercely independent and strong than you think. So, she may not let you do things for her. At times you may find her stubborn for doing things that she sees right. But, if you love a girl who is used to being on her own you need to understand her comfort level and not force her to ask help. It might take her some time to adjust and accustom to a situation where she is no more alone.
Being on her own for years, it’s not at all easy to give herself up to you. If you force your opinions, beliefs, and thoughts on her, chances are high she’ll pull away. She will not pull away because she hates you but scared of losing her space and freedom.
If you love her, give her time to come out of her comfort zone
When being on your own becomes your comfort and safe zone, it takes time to adjust to new feelings and companionship. You might perceive loneliness as dangerous but the girl who is used to being on her own, mind her own business, worry about herself, answer to only herself; will find loneliness as beautiful.
It will take a lot of time for her to adjust to her new life with you. Now put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if suddenly someone shakes up your world, your daily routine, and that loneliness? Wouldn’t it be jarring?
She may not communicate with an open heart
Don’t get surprised if she communicates with you in a weird manner. She may not give an instant reply to your text messages or phone calls. Unlike you, she will go slowly in a relationship and avoid arguments. You may feel she is playing ‘hard to get’.
She has let you in her life because she likes you and thinking forward to spend the rest of her life with you. So, she is not playing games or trying to manipulate you. She has been alone for a very long time. Spending most of the time with herself then friends and colleagues, she has developed poor communication skills.