Are you aware of the fact that a lack of communication in a relationship can sometimes lead to divorce?
Nobody goes into a new marriage hoping that it will fail. Yet, even in 2019, many marriages are still ending in divorce. Why?
When you are feeling upset, angry, or have something on your mind, do you find it easy to come to your partner with your problems? The answer should undoubtedly be yes, yet one of the biggest culprits of a failed marriage is the lack of relationship communication
Communication is how couples express their feelings, deepen their marital friendship, build a rapport, and solve problems together. Without these essential skills, couples will be snowballing toward separation.
Here are some top studies that prove poor relationship communication can lead to divorce and what you can do about it.
1. Not Feeling Understood in your Relationship
Is communication really everything in marriage? In short, the answer is yes. One 2016 study tried to disprove this theory by checking in with newlywed couples four times over 36 months where their overall happiness and communication skills were tested.
The results proved that “more satisfied couples communicate more positively” – AKA, the happiest couples are the ones who know how to communicate.
When you can communicate with your spouse, you feel understood in your relationship. Your emotions are validated, respected, and cared for by your partner.
A lack of communication breeds distrust, self-doubt, and insecurity, which can be damaging to your bond.
A relationship cannot last if this essential element of relationship communication is missing in a marriage.
A lack of communication in a relationship can lead to divorce.
2. Inability to Fight Fair
When relationship communication falters, couples’ resort to unhealthy tactics to get their way during an argument.
Examples of unhealthy communication skills are as follows –
Using the ‘silent treatment’ to get your way or hurt your spouse
Interrupting your spouse when they are trying to speak to you
Playing on your phone during important discussions
Emotionally shutting off or being overly defensive when conversation topics become serious
Purposely belittling or disrespecting your spouse
Frequently going to bed angry
Having screaming matches with one another
Using violence (partner assault or throwing things across the room) as an outlet for frustration
Instead of letting these unhealthy behaviors crowd your ability to communicate, take a deep breath and refocus your intentions.
Here are some helpful tips to have better communication –
Be willing to open up and talk about your feelings.
Give your partner your undivided attention
Stay calm and collected and try hard to listen to your partner’s point of view
Look for ways to compromise
Say I’m sorry
Look at disagreements as an opportunity, rather than a hindrance.
See this as a chance to come together as a team and solve a problem together, instead of using it as an excuse to yell.
3. No Communication = Bad Sex Life
Sex isn’t everything in a marriage, but it is a pretty significant part of your relationship. It determines how close, trusting, and happy you will be together.
Communication also plays a key role in how happy you are and how satisfying your sex life is going to be. Research proves that sexual communication is positively associated with sexual satisfaction and increased orgasm frequency in women.
The study also observes that both men and women were happier in general when they were able to speak to one another openly.
This is an important fact, as marital satisfaction is significantly associated with sexual satisfaction.
When we intimate with a partner, our bodies release a hormone called oxytocin. This “love drug” is responsible for emotional bonding with a partner as well as a significant reduction in stress. Being regularly intimate with a spouse also boosts a couple’s love and liking for one another.
4. Being Unable to Talk about Money
Research regarding common reasons for marital conflict found that out of 748 instances of conflict between 100 couples, money was the most intense and recurring topic couples fought about.