8 Ways Jealousy Harms Your Relationships

Jealousy Harms Relationships

Ahh yes, jealousy! What relationship is complete without it? If you have ever been in an intimate relationship then I can bet you have encountered the green-eyed monster creeping in your thoughts at some point in time. Jealousy is undoubtedly very common in a serious relationship.

However, based on its intensity, jealousy in relationships can severely damage the bond you share with your partner if you do not address it. Although a bit of jealousy can be healthy for your relationship, when it comes to feeding your ego, jealousy can be a real relationship killer.

“Love sees sharply, hatred sees even more sharp, but Jealousy sees the sharpest for it is love and hate at the same time.” – Arab Proverb

As a result of sadness, envy, suspicion, and frustration, this intense human emotion can tempt you to behave irrationally. It can not only hurt your partner, emotionally and psychologically but affect your mental wellbeing as well.

Most of the time we don’t like to admit that we are jealous. Not even to ourselves.

It is a negative feeling that makes us feel weak, helpless, insecure, bitter, detached, and leads to immature behavior. The problem is, even when we realize that we need to control it, jealousy can get the best of us and make us act out against our significant other. It makes us blind to the truth and accuses our partners of something that we found hurtful, even if they are innocent. This can lead to a lack of trust and disconnection between couples. 

What is jealousy?

“Jealousy is the jaundice of the soul.” – John Dryden

It is a complicated and intense feeling that can result in dysfunctional behaviors and despair. However, jealousy should not be confused with envy. Being envious means you want what another person has but you don’t. It’s a natural reaction to lacking a trait or possession.

You can be envious of a friend who has a new car or a person who is more attractive than you. On the contrary, you feel jealous when someone tries to take away what you already have. You might feel jealous of an attractive ex-girlfriend that your boyfriend has started talking with recently.

The more they communicate, the more jealous you will be, even though they might just be platonic friends now. As this new platonic relationship threatens your existing romantic relationship, you might feel jealous.

Jealousy in relationships is an instinctive and natural reaction that can often strengthen the bond that you share with your partner, as long as it is healthy and mild. However, when you do not communicate your feelings of jealousy with your partner and start creating imaginary scenarios inside your head, feelings of jealousy can quickly rise like a mushroom cloud and make you act controlling, selfish and destructive in the relationship.

Jealousy usually stems from low self-esteem, insecurity, and fear. However, it can be hard to admit that you feel insecure as it makes you vulnerable. But if you don’t start working on controlling your jealousy, your relationship will crumble sooner than you can imagine due to repeated conflicts and emotional overreaction.

Interested to know more about what it looks like when someone feels jealous? Check out this article here 12 signs someone is extremely jealous of you

Jealousy: The relationship killer 

“Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening.” – Maya Angelou

Jealousy in relationships often results from real events and experiences and may feel justified inside your mind. Sometimes we feel hurt due to certain unexpected behaviors and actions of our partner, and we often act out of that pain. Feeling insecure about the relationship, we become more possessive and act overbearing.

However, this can transform a loving, supportive relationship into a toxic one that is ruled by control and fear. Insecurity has destroyed countless relationships and it will not spare yours if you let it. Not only does it make you feel jealous, but insecurity also makes you doubt your significant other and sabotage your relationship. The more you get consumed by jealousy, the more you will push your partner further away, even though all you want is to love them and build a stronger, more intimate relationship. 

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Theo Harrison

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