We often have a romantic attraction for someone because we feel an incredible chemistry and an amazing physical attraction to this individual. If we feel pure lust, it is often based on this physical attraction and our fantasy of how we imagine this person to be.
However, as we get to know them—we may see the “real person,” emerge. When that happens, we may still feel lust for them, but not love. Of course, being in love doesn’t exclude lust; and lust can lead to love. But lust alone is not a very solid foundation for a long-term relationship.
A relationship founded and based on lust may go on for a long time. But it rarely satisfies our need for a deep and intimate love connection to that person.
So, sometimes, we find ourselves in a relationship where we ask: Is it love or lust?
If you look to the following planets in your horoscope, and ask five key questions, you will have your answer.
MOON – Emotional Compatibility
1. Am I comfortable being my true self in this relationship? Look to the Moon to find out if your emotional nature will be compatible with the other person. Have you ever met someone you liked but didn’t feel an emotional connection with? Or, have you ever had a relationship with someone you didn’t feel emotionally safe? Or, have you ever been with someone who seemed so detached, you felt emotionally insecure in their presence? For someone to fit your emotional needs, it’s important that your Moon signs be compatible with each other.
The Moon sign rules your emotions, deep-rooted feelings and innermost needs. It explains how you’re likely to express your emotions and indicates your cultural conditioning, and immediate emotional response to people, places and things. Your Moon sign reveals a great deal about the habits, reactions and attitudes that were instilled in you by your family, and developed in your childhood.
The Moon position determines how you react to the behavior and actions of others. It also reveals the special needs you have to feel emotionally satisfied and secure. The Moon sign describes your “inner child,” and gives insights into how you nurture yourself, your domestic nature, home preferences, and the type of relationship you had with your mother or women in general. It is also an indicator of eating habits.
When two people have compatible Moon signs, they enjoy just being in each other’s space. They intuitively understand each other’s needs. Often, they can talk for hours and feel like they’ve known each other for years! They have a natural ease of living together. They’re likely to appreciate the same home décor, and have similar food preferences and eating habits. Because they have complimentary habit patterns, they respond to daily problems and minor differences in similar ways. They also enjoy an emotionally intimate sex life together.
Incompatible Moon signs between two companions can produce emotional confrontations and disharmonious day-to-day living together. Their habit patterns clash and result in major differences in personal behavior and eating and habits (e.g. “I hate the way she squeezes the toothpaste out of the tube.” Or, “I can’t stand the way he talks with all that food in his mouth.”) Because they spend so much time angry or at odds with each other, their relationship lacks the emotional intimacy that makes for a satisfying sexual relationship.
In order to have a harmonious relationship, it’s important that you and the other person understand each other on an emotional level. If you’re going to have an emotionally satisfying and secure relationship, it’s important to know that your Moon signs are compatible.
MERCURY – Communication Compatibility
2. Do I feel good about the way my partner and I communicate, interact and resolve issues?
Look to the planet Mercury to find out if you’ll think and communicate in compatible ways with the other person. Mercury is the planet that rules our intelligence, mind, memory and, all types of communication ranging from talking and texting to writing. It also affects our self-expression and communication style.
How Mercury functions in a person’s birth chart explains a great deal about how they think, formulate ideas and communicate them. It indicates how someone makes sense of the everyday world they live in.
A person’s Mercury sign tells us how easy or difficult it is to communicate with them, especially about sensitive issues. It helps explain why we have similar ways of thinking about all kinds of matters or, why we tend to have radically different ideas than they do.
If your Mercury sign are compatible with the other person, you’ll find them understanding, supportive and easy to talk with. If they are incompatible, you’ll end up disagreeing, arguing and fighting much of the time you’re together.
The sign that Mercury is in can tell you whether a person is likely to communicate in an honest, positive and optimistic manner, or more negatively in a secretive or deceptive way. Their sign can also tell you whether they are prone to use their communications to put down others, be extremely critical, sarcastic or argumentative.
So, if you’re going to get along, have harmonious communication and compatible ideas with your partner, it’s important to know your Mercury sign and theirs. Then, you can determine whether or not you are likely to have compatible communication with each other.