When you ask INTJs for help, you can depend on them knowing they will do everything they can to bring you the best results possible.
4. They are always taking the initiative to grow.
INTJs make great employees if you place them in autonomous roles because they are very independent and proactive.
Once INTJs have a clear understanding of a situation that needs to be addressed, they are great at analyzing the best options and taking the initiative to get the work done.
They are also great resources to learn from because they are always actively seeking ways to improve.
5. They are the jack of all trades.
INTJs have a very high level of intelligence, competence, and knowledge and combined with their natural desire to keep developing personally, it’s not surprising that they are extremely multi-talented.
You may find they have answers to almost all the challenges you run into to the point it surprises you at how much they are capable of.
The difficulties of being in a relationship with an INTJ
Like all good things, there are some bad things about INTJ’s that may prove to be quite the challenge:
1. They can fall into arrogance.
There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and INTJs are guilty of falling into the latter.
Their high level of confidence and capabilities might at times become more of an arrogant mindset instead.
2. They tend to be judgemental.
INTJs usually are quick to dismiss others especially when they feel like they sense gap incompetency.
They may tend to look down on people who are less competent and treat them in a condescending manner.
3. They engage in destructive behavior when under high stress.
When INTJs are under extreme stress, their greatest strengths become a debilitating weakness.
They become overly analytical and may engage in excessive behaviors like drinking or eating. They begin to act much more impulsively and create more projects than they can handle.
While their analytical skills prove to be imperative when solving complex problems, there are times when they overanalyze and make things more complicated then it should be.
4. They don’t respond well to authority.
INTJs hate hearing phrases like “Because I told you so” because their deepest core value lies in finding the most rational answers.
They tend to rub authorities the wrong way because INTJs often question all their motives and it can come off as offensive even though the intention is to figure out the best way to do things.
A big pet peeve for INTJs is whenever you deny a request with answers like “Because that’s just how it’s always been done.”
5. They lack emotional availability.
Because they operate so heavily with the logical left hemisphere of their brains, INTJ’s have trouble utilizing the emotional right brain.
This, in turn, can lead to difficulty in creating intimacy and emotional connection with others.
How to work best with INTJ relationships
Working with INTJ’s can prove to be both productive and difficult. Here are some ways to help enhance you are with INTJ relationships especially during times of conflict:
1. Give them their alone time to think and recharge when brainstorming solutions.
While group feedback is important, INTJs work best when they at least have a separate time to also be able to think things through uninterrupted.
If they don’t accept your ideas, don’t take it personally. They are not being rigid. They are genuinely trying to figure out the best solution in an objective manner.
In fact, they are actually very open to ideas as long as it helps lead to the solution so don’t give up on the first try if they reject an idea you have.
What to do?
- When making suggestions or coming up with ideas to solve a problem, be sure you first have a good sense of the background information first. If you ask questions that you could’ve just googled first, they will quickly dismiss you so be sure to ask questions that show you at least have a good foundational knowledge of the situation.
- Don’t micromanage. Doing so will make them very resistant to you and disengaged. Instead, communicate your needs and once you confirm they understand the situation clearly, provide whatever necessary tools needed to get the job done and leave them to get the work done.
2. Connect by showing a desire to learn.
INTJs hate small talk but are highly stimulated by deep intellectual conversations. The purpose of all the intellect they build-up isn’t to be better than people, but it comes from a genuine love for growth and improvement.