Relationship Deal breaker : Watch out for the red flags.
Falling in love is a complex process. And, sometimes you miss the signs that can make a difference to your relationship happiness.
In the beginning, you’re either drawn to someone because you have shared interests or because the spark is so strong you can hardly ignore it.
Opposites often attract, and this is because you’re seeking different characteristics to complete yourself.
The person who has a preference for introversion may be charmed by the extrovert’s ease in large social situations, or the planning type might want to live vicariously through their spontaneous partner’s go-with-the-flow attitude.
But when the differences are too stark, they become difficult to overcome. The endearing trait you fell in love with, suddenly becomes a go or no-go situation: a relationship deal-breaker.
Getting to know your Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® can help identify your innate preferences – and your partner’s – as well as potential pitfalls.
Armed with the knowledge of your personality types, you can work on accepting each other, and consciously work toward romantic bliss. Or, you can be honest about what you need and make the heart-wrenching call to move on.
Every personality type has its ultimate relationship deal-breaker. Here are the showstoppers for the Extraverted types:
Relationship Deal breakers for Extroverts
ESFP: Risk aversion
The typical ESFP has an adventurous streak, and they need a free spirit to join them as they explore life. They might tolerate a random phobia, but generally, their patience wears thin. They don’t want to be unkind – in fact, they make accommodations in the beginning because they are so compassionate. At the same time, they can’t feel stifled in the relationship.
ESFJ: Someone who needs saving
ESFJs are loyal types who want to map out their future and care for the ones they love. While they enjoy a little fun and they give their last dollar to help someone out, long-term ESFJs want to be with someone who has their life together. They want to be giving and receiving love equally, and planning a life jointly, side by side.
If ENTPs are not activating their curiosity and continually learning, they’re going to get bored. Give them the opportunity, and challenge in any arena – including love, and they are satisfied with life.
ENTJ: Perception of disloyalty
These goal-oriented strategic planners are the same in love as they are business. And, they put you through a million tests to judge your worthiness and loyalty. They can be very supportive and share their partner’s success, but if they get an impression that you’re not as loyal to them – whether or not it’s true — you’ll be out so fast your head will spin!
ESTP: Controlling behavior
ESTPs like to swoop in and be the hero. They’ll help anyone out of a bind, and they’ll give you fun, excitement, and gifts when they are in love. Until they need their space to go out and do the things they need to do. If you apply pressure, this gregarious type worries that they are missing out, and any attempts to control them backfire.
ESTJ: Too many surprises
The ESTJ finally falls in love when they can let go of control. That isn’t easy for this take-charge individual. Too much of a good thing isn’t good; though. Anyone who breaks their trust or brings too much instability is not going to last. The ESTJs deal-breaker is too many surprises.
ENFP: Close mindedness
The ENFP yearns to be free to explore their dreams. They are open, passionate types, and nothing holds them back. When they feel walls from and are given limits by a significant other, that’s a signal that the relationship can’t move forward.
ENFJ: Emotionally detached
This type has a lot to offer someone in a relationship. They’re warm and giving, and in the end, they want someone to care for them in return. Detached, overly independent types won’t go far with ENFJs. They need someone who nurtures them and their relationship.