How To Improve Your Relationship With Yourself: 5 Ways

how to improve your relationship with yourself

4. Commit To One Habit That You Keep Every Day. 

Imagine that you have a friend who frequently cancels at the last minute or doesn’t show up for plans you made together. It is likely that you would start to lose trust in that friend over time. The same thing happens when you don’t nurture the relationship you have with yourself.

Rather than overwhelm yourself with trying to establish several new habits at the same time, pick one that is realistic for your schedule and initially no more than 10-20 minutes per day. Some examples are practicing daily meditation for 5 minutes, journaling for 10 minutes, going for a 5-minute walk, or reading a book you enjoy for 10 minutes.

This process can help you build trust with yourself and improve how you relate with yourself over time. 

Related: Three Wrong Ways To Love Yourself And How To Do It Right

5. Practice Meditation. 

Meditation can help to change the relationship you have with your thoughts, which can assist in reducing the impact of negative self-talk if practiced regularly. The positive effects of meditation can also improve your relationship with yourself and with others.

Research has shown that meditation can help increase your self-compassion as well as your compassion for others. There are meditations designed to improve your relationship with yourself and others, such as the Loving-Kindness Meditation and the Self-Compassion Break.

improve your relationship with yourself
Meditation can help you improve your relationship with yourself

It’s helpful to keep in mind that you can improve your relationship with yourself no matter what point you are starting at and that progress is not linear. Similar to any other relationship, you’re not immune to criticism, frustration, or feeling disconnected at times. Although it will take consistent effort and time to build a healthier relationship with yourself, the benefits of doing so can positively impact your life in many ways and your future self will thank you.

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only. This article is not intended to be a substitute for professional or psychological advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health providers with any questions you may have regarding your condition or well-being.


Binder, P., Dundas, I., Stige, S. H., Hjeltnes, A., Woodfin, V., & Moltu, C. (2019). Becoming Aware of Inner Self-Critique and Kinder Toward Self: A Qualitative Study of Experiences of Outcome After a Brief Self-Compassion Intervention for University Level Students. Frontiers in Psychology,10. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02728

Condon, P., Desbordes, G., Miller, W. B., & Desteno, D. (2013). Meditation Increases Compassionate Responses to Suffering. Psychological Science,24(10), 2125-2127. doi:10.1177/0956797613485603

Jazaieri, H., Jinpa, G. T., Mcgonigal, K., Rosenberg, E. L., Finkelstein, J., Simon-Thomas, E., Goldin, P. R. (2012). Enhancing Compassion: A Randomized Controlled Trial of a Compassion Cultivation Training Program. Journal of Happiness Studies,14(4), 1113-1126. doi:10.1007/s10902-012-9373-z

Dr. Zarrabi is the author of Mindful Dating, a Psychology Today blog about attraction and relationship patterns. Check it out at

Written By Roxy Zarrabi 
Originally Appeared In Psychology Today

The more you try to improve your relationship with yourself, the happier and healthier your future self will be. Always treat yourself kindly, and give yourself what you need to feel happy, and at peace. The healthier relationship you have with yourself, the content you will be in the long run.

ways improve relationsip with yourself pin
How To Improve Your Relationship With Yourself: 5 Ways
how to improve your relationship with yourself pin
How To Improve Your Relationship With Yourself: 5 Ways
Pages: 1 2

Roxy Zarrabi, Psy.D

Roxy Zarrabi, Psy.D., is a Clinical Psychologist who specializes in helping women struggling with low self-esteem, anxiety, or dating/relationship challenges to feel confident about themselves and the future of their relationships. She empowers clients to tap into their inner wisdom and utilize their strengths to combat their inner critic, boost their mood, and enhance their relationships. Her goal is to help people learn to create the meaningful lives they desire. She is the author of Mindful Dating, a Psychology Today blog about the psychology of attraction and relationship patterns. More information about her therapy services can be found at You can also stay updated on her latest freebies, updates, and blog posts by joining her email list here.View Author posts