How To Improve Your Relationship With Yourself: 5 Ways

how to improve your relationship with yourself

The most important relationship in your life will always be the one you have with yourself. So, whenever you feel disconnected on the inside, it’s a sign that you need to improve your relationship with yourself.

We often hear the phrase “relationships take work,” and this phrase is typically used in reference to romantic relationships. But what about our relationship with ourselves?

When we think about the relationships that are important in our lives, we rarely think of the ones we have with ourselves. The relationship you have with yourself is one of the most important ones you will have and it sets the tone for how you show up in your other relationships.

Some of the key elements of building a strong relationship with others include trust, respect, acceptance, compassion, and good communication. These same elements are just as important when it comes to the relationship you have with yourself. The stronger your relationship is with yourself, the more likely you are to communicate your needs effectively to others and to find your relationships satisfying. 

If you don’t have a good relationship with yourself, this may result in feelings of low self-worth and is often an indication that you are disconnected from yourself. When you have low self-worth, the key to improving your relationship with yourself is to find ways to reconnect with your authentic self. 

It’s not unusual to encounter mental resistance during this process, particularly if you’re used to having a loud inner critic. Try to meet yourself where you’re at and start with one or two habits that feel manageable for you. Below are five ways to start improving your relationship with yourself: 

Here Are 5 Ways To Improve Your Relationship With Yourself

1. Honestly Evaluate The Areas In Your Life That Need Attention. 

An important step to improving your relationship with yourself is to reflect on the areas in your life where you are not honoring your needs, then evaluate the changes you can make, and set boundaries with others as needed. 

A helpful place to start is to consider the areas of your life where you are feeling drained. Perhaps you are answering phone calls long after you’ve left work or you notice you are feeling agitated every time you’re around a particular family member because of the comments they make about your children.

When you start evaluating how you can honor your needs and begin to take action in these areas, you start to build trust with yourself and increase your self-compassion. 

2. Practice Self-Compassion. 

Research has demonstrated that self-compassion can help combat your inner critic and improve your relationship with yourself. There are many exercises that can help build self-compassion.

A simple way to start practicing is next time you’re being critical of yourself, acknowledge that you are experiencing suffering in the present moment, and rather than try to shame yourself or bottle it up, ask yourself what you need at that moment and reflect on ways you can show yourself compassion.

If you have a loud inner critic and feel stuck, it can help to imagine what you would say to a friend in a similar situation, then apply those same statements to yourself.

Related: 6 Life Changing Steps To Practice Mindful Self Compassion

3. Engage In Meaningful Self-Care. 

When implemented thoughtfully, self-care can be an antidote to feeling disconnected from yourself. Self-care involves intentionally considering how you can take care of yourself and recharge before you’re running on empty. It’s a process that helps you feel connected to yourself and replenishes you.

Self-care can include relaxing activities or it can include activities that protect your energy such as not responding to work emails after a certain hour or saying no to additional projects or requests for your time. Self-care also includes getting adequate rest, eating nourishing foods, and moving your body regularly.

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Roxy Zarrabi, Psy.D

Roxy Zarrabi, Psy.D., is a Clinical Psychologist who specializes in helping women struggling with low self-esteem, anxiety, or dating/relationship challenges to feel confident about themselves and the future of their relationships. She empowers clients to tap into their inner wisdom and utilize their strengths to combat their inner critic, boost their mood, and enhance their relationships. Her goal is to help people learn to create the meaningful lives they desire. She is the author of Mindful Dating, a Psychology Today blog about the psychology of attraction and relationship patterns. More information about her therapy services can be found at You can also stay updated on her latest freebies, updates, and blog posts by joining her email list here.View Author posts