The Power of Saying ‘I Find You Beautiful.’

‘I find you beautiful‘  a simple statement that creates a universe of beauty between two people.

I once broke up with a man because he refused to tell me I am beautiful.

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What a conceited bitch! Where’s your self-esteem? Why do you need a man’s validation?

I don’t know if you are thinking those things about me, but I have thought them about myself.

I’ve been giving some thought as to whether or not it should matter to anyone if the person they are dating calls them the (complimentary) B-word.

He told me I was pretty. He said I was attractive. Hot. Sexy.

But for some reason he could never cross over that line into the realm of “beautiful.”

I have no idea if he ever called another woman beautiful in the past, and I don’t believe it matters.

The fact is, the four simple words “I find you beautiful” hold so much power that he could not make himself say them, and I could not get past the fact that those words were being withheld.

When I am in love and want to express my complete adoration, there is nothing stronger I can find to say than “You are a beautiful man.“

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When I hug my boys before they go sleep, I say to each, “Goodnight my beautiful boy.“

The distinction between calling a woman beautiful rather than pretty, hot, sexy, attractive, etc.

— or calling a man beautiful rather than handsome, hot, sexy, attractive, etc.

—  is that beautiful is never merely a simple statement about physical appearance.

Beautiful is all encompassing.

Beautiful is organic. Beautiful is whole.

Beautiful is soothing, healing, uplifting, joyous, and so much more.

Beautiful is far more powerful than gorgeous, stunning, or lovely.

Beautiful connotes the physical, spiritual, and emotional.


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