Having a confusing time taking the right decision regarding your love interest or literally just ANYONE, for that matter? Well, that makes all of us.
Be it for your tendency to get emotionally attached and fall hard for someone much faster than the other person. Which ultimately leaves you in a position where you’re more vulnerable to rejection or worse, heartbreak.
It can also include the situation where you actually land the person you want to be with but don’t want to rush into things. Because as we all know, rushing into a freshly forged relationship is as bad as ruining it. Hence, the controlled approach towards emotional attachment.
If it is about completely eradicating the matter of emotional attachment, this is a short discussion. Provided you have lost interest or you know it might end badly or worse, it might lead to an unhealthy time ahead. Then removing all sorts of emotional attachment is the way to go.
Emotional Attachment : The Concept
Emotional attachment refers to the feelings of closeness and affection that help sustain meaningful relationships over time.
Attachment plays an important role in human connection. The earliest bonds you form with parents and family members can guide and shape the attachments you develop to friends and romantic partners later in life.
You can become emotionally attached to people even without romantic or sexual attraction. Simply feeling close to someone helps you bond and increases your sense of connection. This attachment might help you feel safe, comfortable, happy, maybe even somewhat euphoric in their company.
But how can you tell if you’re too attached? How much of an attachment is rather harmful? What do you do if that happens? We have all the answers and directions for you.
8 Ways to Stop Being Emotionally Attached
Here are the steps which are just as honest as they are simple and will definitely help you cut short the struggle of erasing your attachments.
1. Reduce Contacts
Be strict with yourself about how much you’re in contact with any new love interests. Don’t text them all day every day as soon as you meet them. Don’t spend all your free time with them. Don’t abandon your friends for them. And don’t let them become your main focus. Keep up with your interests and don’t let your life start to revolve around them.
If there’s someone in particular you’re thinking of, the same thing applies. Don’t dive straight into this new relationship. Ease yourself in gradually, letting the contact between you grow naturally and sustainably, rather than going from 0 to 100 overnight.
2. Physical Intimacy : A Big NO-NO
In the process of removing emotional attachment, physical intimacy is the Kryptonite. Getting involved sexually is the easiest way to develop emotional connection, which is okay if you want the commitment. But in any other scenario, try and keep yourself from sex. Positively.
If its a new relationship, rushing into sex might actual backfire. Wait it out, enjoy the ‘honeymoon period’ that comes along with every fresh relationship and build the trust first. The rest of the going only gets easier after that and sexual intimacy automatically comes along.
3. Have Clarity about Your Wants
Be clear about what you want from a relationship and why you want it. Having this clarity automatically clears out whether you see the relationship working in the long run or not, whether you’re getting your needs fulfilled and vice versa.
This is extremely helpful and gives a level ground to judge yourself, based on the commitment you want to have or if at all. Accordingly, the emotional attachment can be built upon or removed eventually.
4. The Present is All You Have
Put a halt to all the futuristic thoughts about ‘being together’, to begin with. Stop dwelling in the future. It is just as harmful as dwelling on your past. Live and deal with the present. More often than not, it suffices.